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Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[–] SCB 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

An oft-cited APA/census study found that 35-50% of first marriages end in divorce. That number goes up for subsequent marriages (~66%).

I think it's bad reasoning to suggest that a 50% divorce rate has any bearing on any given marriage, though. People marry and get divorced for a wide array of reasons.