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Framing men as the ‘villains’ in relationships also frames them as unable to change
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 17 Aug 2023
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As someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship, I don't think I can read this without getting triggered.
I think it's important to remember that all women are capable of being victims and perpetrators, and all men are also capable. Abusers have no genders and can occur in non-cis relationships.
I understand this, I've definitely been meaning to post a discussion about how we should go about things like content warnings here.
EDIT: Just to be clear for anybody who may be worried from this exchange. This article is generally not about abuse in relationships.