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You're not alone. My wife does this all the time, usually by text, which is even more annoying since we're always within earshot of each other.
I think it bothers you (and me) because it's akin to someone ringing a bell for their servant. It doesn't value your time at all to simply call you over with no context.
Once in a while? Fine. Always? That's just being disrespectful.
I've simply resorted to "what is it?", "I'm busy right now" or "I'll come later", and that usually ends up with a "never mind", so I know it was never something important enough to stop what I was doing.
If your wife is using text instead of talking to you, I would consider that a sign of respect. At least this is why I text people I could just as easily talk to.
Texting is inherently asynchronous. Your wife is telling you, “This isn’t urgent. Read it whenever you get the chance.” If you’re in the middle of something, texting is less obtrusive than if they just started talking with you out of nowhere.
This is just my personal interpretation. Only you can decide if it makes sense in the context of your relationship.
Nah, she's just super lazy. LOL
She knows I'll be working, but I have to "come here" because "Can you bring up my water?"... literally just ask me to bring up water and save me two trips and 15 minutes to get back into what I was doing!
It's a habit that needs to be deprogrammed.
That's an assertion of dominance. I would hate it.
I’m sorry if this comes off harsh, I think your response requires this question. Is your wife a computer or a person? She has her own set of feelings, thoughts, and needs that she could find difficult to communicate with you for some reason. You need to be certain you’re properly respecting the person you are in a committed relationship, that includes making sure she can properly communicate what she needs with you without feeling like an inconvenience or a chore.
I say all this because I’ve been there, I’ve treated people in my life like they were inconveniencing me and ultimately it ruined relationships. It’s not fun on the other end of that.
I didn't come here to be reminded I feel this way. I just came for the memes.
For someone outside your home, I would agree with this. But for someone in the house, especially within earshot, I feel it's the exact opposite. Just talk to me, use your words, and tell me what you want.
People being antisocial toward their own spouse getting up voted is a troubling sign.
Lemmy is deep internet, we all have issues.