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[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I get the productivity shame as well. Like if I mention a game I play, then someone is piping up with a fence they fixed or something etc etc.

It seems like you're getting your femininity attacked as well which seems so strange. I just thought we would've learned by now. Like in our generation (looks like we started at the same time) I was teased (to say the least) a lot for my "nerdy" interests but now it's like most of it is vogue. It's dumb that we would repeat that with a specific gender.

I don't know if it's of any use but the majority of my lady friends game. Thru mostly also tend to be quiet about it unless nudged. That is to say that you're not weird, just awesome.

[โ€“] bibliotectress 6 points 11 months ago

Your comment is so kind! Thank you!!! And you're right, I've never really thought about it like that, but it DOES feel like my femininity is attacked! It's easy to wave off the incel "tHeRe ArE nO wOmEn On ThE iNtErNeT" comments that I don't come across as much anymore, but from people I know face-to-face, it gets to me. At least enough to avoid the topic. I'm sure there are a lot of women like me all hiding that we play video games!

It's not fair that you're getting the productivity shame either. The people who do that are usually the same people that are like, "Have you seen the latest 5 different series that have dropped on Netflix? I watched them all last weekend."

Oh well. I feel like it'll only get more socially acceptable to spend our free time however we want! It can only go up from here!