My son (8 years old, born and raised in the US) was diagnosed last week. I'm hesitating to let the school know because they'll lower their expectations, when he's so curious and clever. Not sure how I'll navigate it yet, but I (born and raised in Jamaica) know I likely have some form of it too.

Yeah, that's the thing, I've seen the gamut (and people will say "of course it's a spectrum") and a non-trivial amount are people almost treating it as "trendy", and self-diagnosing or shopping professionals seeking a diagnosis.

I remember at the time they were announcing removal of Asperger's from the DSM that there was some thought that the high functioning "condition" did more harm than good. It seems the ship has sailed and anyone who doesn't feel comfortable in social situations and also wants to use it as evidence of their intelligence will go for an Autistic diagnosis. I've dealt with a few people who got mad at their mental health professional for telling them they are within the realm of "normal" and everyone finds a challenge in dealing with other people to an extent.

Meanwhile, the people who would have been diagnosed as autistic whether today or 40 years ago suffer some dilution of accommodation, as it seems everyone asserts they are neourodivergent/spicy/autistic online and it ceases to mean much in the popular perception.