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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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(Follow-up) Is it wrong/transphobic that I only feel attraction to and would go out with cis men? (lemmings.world)

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I affirm trans people’s existence. As someone who lacks empathy, I honestly don’t care about trans rights, nor the suffering they faced, but I know it’s bad and that they’re people too. I don’t see a reason to discriminate, so I don’t.

I don’t deadname. I use the correct pronouns. I’m just only romantically, sexually attracted to, and would only go out with cis men.

I wouldn’t date a trans man with lady parts because of his lady parts. I like man parts. I wouldn’t date a trans man with surgery because he’s female-bodied (I’m simply not attracted to trans men).

I wouldn’t date a trans woman because she’s a woman, though I might like her man parts if she still has them.

I wouldn’t date a cis woman because I’m not attracted to cis women, nor would I have sex or date either of the identified people.

I like masculine parts with a male body. If I meet the right one, I may be bicurious and date women (cis). I like the attention, compliments, and closeness of a woman, so I say I’m bi, but I only really see men as dating material.

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[–] Oberyn 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Yes, if you refuse to date trans men bcus you think they're "female bodied" call their parts "lady parts" that means you don't see them as men

This "parts" language you're using's transphobic language you need to excise . No "(man|lady|masculine) parts" . And you MUST care about trans rights

[–] Ziglin 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I agree that the "[misgendered term] parts" are tip off but as somebody who doesn't really experience sexual attraction I don't feel able to say whether or not it's transphobic to only be attracted to a type of genitalia not somebody's gender. It seems intuitive that it should exist but maybe new terminology is required (or already exists and I don't know it)?

[–] Oberyn 1 points 6 days ago

Issue's coupling genitalia with gender , OP thinks (penis = "man part"|vulva = "lady part") . We should detach genitalia from gender entirely . Genital preference touchy bcus indeed most what I see about it's transphobia from TERFs (whole "lesbian = not liking penis" thing)

Perhaps OP would be better off expressing their attraction as "attracted to men with features classified as 'traditionally masculine'" ?