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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago (5 children)
[–] DelightfullyDivisive 3 points 7 hours ago

I went on something like 50 dates with people that I found on online dating sites. This was between 2005 and 2007 (when I met my wife via Yahoo Personals.)

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah the OG OKCupid was incredible. Then it was bought out and became another swiping app.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Oh was OKCupid a non Tinder like app back then? Good to know

[–] mint_tamas 6 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (2 children)

Yes, they had a system where you answered questions about a wide range of topics, and answered what the ideal mate should say, then give a weight to how important that is for you. For example, you prefer chocolate over vanilla, and you want your mate to be the same, but it’s not an important factor. On the other hand, you prefer not to be a nazi, and it’s super important your mate isn’t one either. Also, there were IQ questions which allowed filtering out the stupid ones (like is the sun or the earth larger). Then the system would recommend profiles based on a match score computed from your answers. Really great. Got two relationships out of it, one is going 10 years today.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 hours ago

Adding onto this, it was totally free and you could just endlessly scroll through profiles, read them, look at their answers to questions, etc. No need to say "yes" or "no" to each profile judt to see the next one. And if you answered all of the personality questions (there were hundreds if not thousands) you were invited to become a site mod, which I did.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

Oh my that system sounds wonderful. Too bad we don't have that anymore.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah. When they had to fight for their user base. Even Tinder was reasonably usable couple of years ago. It paired me with my current partner which must be considered a marvel of technology.

[–] Trex202 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes, but by pairing you, it lost 2 users! That's counterintuitive to capitalism.

So if the AI works for the users, it will bring down the app.

If the AI works for the investors, people will get bad pairings and it will bring down the app.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hey, it's not "bad pairings", it's just a very good pairing (with fake AI profile) that "unfortunately" could never have a conversation outside the app

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Neuralink ftw lol.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I had a modicum of success on OKC. In 2013.

[–] foggenbooty 2 points 23 hours ago

That was because OKC had long form quizzes and in depth bios. It has been Tinderized and is no longer recognizable.

[–] poo 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ditto - a date from OKC in 2012 led to my current marriage

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] poo 1 points 1 day ago

And probably not my twentieth

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I met my fiancée on a dating app circa 2014

[–] chonglibloodsport 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And how much do you use dating apps now?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Considering I have a fiancée, never.

[–] chonglibloodsport 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And that’s the point. When it works, they lose 2 customers forever.

It’s a filtering process that removes all the diamonds in the rough. All that’s left is the rough.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

I mean that's definitely true and all, but wouldn't they also get a continuous fresh supply of single people (coming of age, breakups). Don't get me wrong I totally get they want that and to keep the users hooked as well, because they're greedy piggys, but still I don't know if the business model is doomed if they don't.

[–] chonglibloodsport 1 points 6 hours ago

The issue is if those new singles enter the rough zone (full of people who have not had much success) they’re going to have a very bad experience. Probably the best experience is for then to pair off against other new singles and depart. Some will end up doing that but others will end up stuck in the mud like everyone else.