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I don’t mean morally wrong, I know that sexuality is a spectrum, that everyone is different, and I shouldn’t let anyone tell me how to describe myself, I mean wrong terminology.

Like how a man who’s attracted to other men wouldn’t call himself straight for example.

I’m certainly not straight, even if there’s one woman I’ve ever liked and the rest were men, I still liked a girl.

I would definitely date regardless of gender but only one women has really been attractive to me. Although I’d date and love regardless, other genders don’t really give me the spark men do.

If I dated a man who transitioned to nonbinary or transfem, I would still love them regardless and wouldn’t lose my interest in him.

I consider myself attracted to women maybe ~5% of the time, 95% other genders (most of the 95% is male but IDK the exact percentage on that part)

Would omni/bi be a better description?

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[–] serpineslair 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Right-on spankmonkey! Great way of explaining it. I'm gonna be a dick, though, and take things a step further. I don't see the need for asexual either. Surely that means you have a low sex drive, and prefer to judge people based on personality. What do you think?

[–] spankmonkey 4 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Asexual people have zero drive, the to the point that they only have sex because of either trying to fit into social expectations or because they are in a relationship where they are trying to meet their partner's drive. They personally are not sexually attracted to anyone.

None is different from the categories of (in general) opposite, same, and all.

On that note, even things like straight are fuzzy because a man being attracted to a very feminine man in drag can consider themselves straight or not depending on whether they see someone as a woman because of presentation or genitalia or a combination of both. But not being sexually attracted to anyone or not having a sex drive at all is significantly different and is worth including.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Asexual here. Perfect explanation. 😊

[–] serpineslair 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for your insight 🙂.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

No problem! :)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Asexuality isn't about sex drive. It's a question of where you direct sexual desires. If it's not directed at anyone (whether it's because it's non-existent, because it's undirected, or it's directed at fictional characters or objects), then that's asexual. Apparently, non-asexual people experience this thing where they see someone attractive and get a "I want to have sex with this specific person" feeling.

[–] serpineslair 1 points 2 days ago

Yup, that makes sense. You're right. Thanks.