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Find a partner in crime and do things we enjoy together. If that means kids that means kids. If that means starting a cult in the Alaskan mountains I guess I'm starting a cult.
Jokes aside I do just want to find someone who actually "clicks" with me. I've been in many relationships, but there were always issues. Many of which were my own fault, but either way something just wasn't quite right. Obviously with each mistake you learn, but it also means I am more selective as well. There are red flags I would have ignored in the past that I now won't even get past the talking phase because I know what happens if I do ignore that red flag.
Other than finding a soulmate I just like helping others in small ways. My dream job would be like town handyman for a remote village or something. I enjoy helping others solve little problems in their lives and I grew up at the end of a long dirt road in the middle of nowhere with not much money so we had to learn how to fix things ourselves and be resourceful with what we had available to us. Now I live in a city and I mostly help people with computers and other technology issues but my real happiness comes from fixing things for people that either cannot do it or lack the knowledge on how to do it.
If I close my eyes and imagine a perfect life I'm there with a wonderful woman who is kind to me, but challenges me on a physical and intellectual level. Some big dogs. Maybe a cabin by a river or lake. Some comfy chairs around a fire pit. That sounds like bliss.
Sounds very pleasant. Reminds me of when I was in the scouts as a teen. All bunked up in a cabin in the woods, chilly air staved off by a crackling fire and blankets, folks singing songs, eating marshmallows and just vibing.
There is a certain comfort in a warm fire and being away from civilization. Especially as we lead the see increasingly technology driven lives. Sometimes it's nice to return to the basics.