Trans
General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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Blahaj zone doesn't have downvotes, so if you're seeing replies to this community downvoted, it means they've most likely come from someone on your own instance who saw the post in "all" rather than being an angry downvotes from within this community.
Oh, sorry if I wasn't clear - the downvotes are clearly coming from (almost certainly) cis people who are more uncomfortable being confronted with the fact that they can't vote fascism away (and are happy to scapegoat those oppressed by it most), than they are with the ongoing oppression of trans people (which definitely didn't start with trump, and definitely wouldn't have stopped if Kamala had been elected).
Definitely wasn't thinking it was folks from within the community.
It's just possible that the downvotes aren't just from "cis people concerned you can't vote fascism away", but that there's one or two from other trans people who are concerned with the vitriolic hatred you seem to hold. With complete sincerity, it's going to be incredibly difficult for the trans community to survive this if you keep alienating us from the scant few allies we already have.
Hey, I see I'll preface this with: I saw this scrolling through All, I'm not from America so have no skin in the game, and for all intents and purposes you'd look at me and see a cis dude.
I see a lot of posts with opinions like this and really don't understand the point of view because I come from a totally different world. Before reading this (and like 100 other posts of the same nature) I would have said "y'all were stupid for not voting dems in. It was clear what republicans were going to do, and are doing. Voting against them was the only option."
I'm just trying to learn, not wanting to start shit, but what was the alternative here? From where I sit, again in another country altogether, y'all had two options and chose to either vote the shittiest, vote 3rd party (never going to win) or not at all. What's the purpose? I saw someone mention George Carlin talking about why he doesn't vote (says there's no point so he jerks off at home rather than jerk off by going to the polls and pretending he made a difference). I've seen a lot of "you can't expect me to vote for genocide" comments which I agree with. Idk, I guess I saw someone talking passionately and just wanted to understand what the plan was?
I'd really like to hear from someone with the point of view im asking about, as I said, I've already got an opinion based on where I'm from, I don't need someone telling me what others think and why they're wrong.
And yet here you are, demanding emotional labour from people who very much do have skin in the game and are hurting and have better things to do than to spoon feed you information you've already admitted to not being open to hear.
Take this as a learning opportunity - open a search engine of your choice, and start doing your own work. The people you want to hear from have and continue to speak up (E: hell, you could even scroll maybe a page or two through my profile, as a person whose opinions you seem interested in, but not interested enough to lift a finger, and find plenty of places to get you started). You not wanting to make any effort to listen is a you problem, not a lack of available information problem.
I dont know how to respond to that to be honest.
I had a whole thing in my head of just asking what you felt so that I could hear you out. I have a different opinion but I change my mind on things frequently.
You posted two other things so I took that to mean A) you didn't mind talking about your opinion and B) might have wanted to say your peice. I wanted to hear what you had to say, why you felt the way you did. I can see you thought I was being disingenuous but I really meant that in good faith. I'm not great at this whole internet convo stuff so I'll take it as my bad but I really did just want to talk. Sorry.
Of course you don't since you're clearly incapable of shutting up and listening. That's literally all it takes.¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Lmfao, prove it. I told you what I had to say, and you're clearly not interested in hearing it at all, nor in investing any of your own time or energy in to informing yourself.
Never mind who wholly inappropriate it is to even come on to a post like this in the first place expecting people to expend emotional labour on you.
So again - you not wanting to hear is a you problem, not an available information problem, and definitely not my problem or the problem of other trans and or otherwise marginalised people.
We don't owe you shit, if you actually care you do your own fucking work.
Oh, and also
You've been fine, they're being needlessly hostile. Sometimes people forget you can just not respond to things, so a request for your opinion isn't actually an imposition on your time unless you want it to be.
Hey look, I appreciate what you say below but I agree, I was probably tactless and I think saying I picked a bad time is an understatement. I'm going to just move on and do what they recommend and "do my research". Leave 'em be, they're pissed and looking for someone to take it out on.
Lmfao, says the person defending the other person who barged in to a post where people are clearly hurting and inserted himself and his privileged feelings and wilful ignorance by responding to a comment that was clearly not an invitation for debate, declaring his opinion is already made up, and still insists said hurting trans people spoon feed him information that is easily available at the click of a fucking button.
I'm not the one who's forgotten anything, clown.
There's a term for identifying personal lack of understanding in an area, and asking someone to please explain it without rhetorical address. It's "the socratic method". Honestly it'd be hard to find something more opposite of willful ignorance. (Obnoxious ignorance, I'll grant you)
You're attacking them for what was admittedly an annoying request, but you could have just ignored them and they would have gone away. You're seeking out things to be angry at, which is worrying because holy fuck my cup doth runneth over with the unjust insanity of the world right now. That guy isn't who you need to protect people from, though. He's not an immediate threat, or probably even a threat at all. Save your energy, and what little goodwill we have, for when we need it. Because we sure as fuck are going to need it soon.
Cis person comes on to a post about trans people being rounded up in preparation for their human rights to be removed demanding to be educated about a subject that has been discussed and written about millions of times by millions of people all of which are available at the tip of his finger, gets told "NO", and somehow he is the victim that is under "attack".
Fucking typical.
GTFOH
Like I said it was an annoying request, I'm not about to argue that it wasn't. And your anger is perfectly fucking understandable right now, but please don't waste your energy getting worked up over shit like this - that guy was somewhat tactless, probably because nobody has told him how to be tactful about asking questions and he's new in communities like this, but otherwise he's harmless.
I've been through this shit before, and oh boy is it not easy. One of the most important things you can do is remember that this is a community and that we have to look out for all of us first, even if that includes shutting up and letting the slightly-tactless-but-very-polite aussie pass by uncontested. Look we're solidly losing a war to even be recognized as human right now, hypervigilance is pretty understandable. But as useful as it can be in some situations, it'll burn you out faster than you'd believe. If you do that to yourself now, we won't have you around to keep us safe when we really need you. There are more than enough people to stand up for here in this community, people who actually need you because they can't stand up for themselves. I promise, this is a waste of your time, energy and emotion.