Chronic Illness
A community/support group for chronically ill people. While anyone is welcome, our number one priority is keeping this a safe space for chronically ill people.
This is a support group, not a place for people to spout their opinions on disability.
Rules
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Be excellent to each other
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Absolutely no ableism. This includes harmful stereotypes: lazy/freeloaders etc
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No quackery. Does an up-to date major review in a big journal or a major government guideline come to the conclusion you’re claiming is fact? No? Then don’t claim it’s fact. This applies to potential treatments and disease mechanisms.
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No denialism or minimisation This applies challenges faced by chronically ill people.
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No psychosomatising psychosomatisation is a tool used by insurance companies and governments to blame physical illnesses on mental problems, and thereby saving money by not paying benefits. There is no concrete proof psychosomatic or functional disease exists with the vast majority of historical diagnoses turning out to be biomedical illnesses medicine has not discovered yet. Psychosomatics is rooted in misogyny, and consisted up until very recently of blaming women’s health complaints on “hysteria”.
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In the past there was just way too many doctors who didn't understand women's bodies and would jump directly to this. It's kinda swung the other direction though where they're less inclined to do this procedure; but in some cases it's absolutely needed. Glad to see you're getting the medical care you deserve.
I've had so many people tell me that I'll change my mind about kids and to think of my future partners. Kids are a NO and if someone I'm interested in wants kids, that's a deal breaker. It's so fucking dumb how obsessed with children people are. Glad my Dr listens to me.
It's almost like you come from a long line of child bearing mothers or something.
Don't discount people who want children. You don't, that's fine. But I don't see the need to hate on people who do want children; it's a natural instinct to have. At least some of the warnings come from lawsuits where doctors got sued after-the-fact.
I don't hate parents or people who want kids. I have several friend who are trying to have children and I am rooting for them. My one friend just had her first baby and I'm so happy for her. Babies are cool when they aren't mine and for short periods of time. Like babies waving to me in stores is one of my fave things. Kids just aren't my thing and never will be.
What I do hate is the doctors who think a woman can't make choices about her own body just because she has the ability to make a baby. My first gynecologist was downright mean with you unless you wanted a baby. My second gynecologist dismissed everything I told her about my menstrual issues and kept telling me that my future husband would want kids and that I'd end up being a mother. I'm gay and she didn't acknowledge that. She just kept talking about a man who doesn't exist. I also expressed to every doctor that if I do, somehow, change my mind, I'll adopt. My sister was adopted and the whole thing was amazing. We rescued her from an awful situation as a toddler and now she's flourishing as a young adult.
I've spoken to many other women who have experienced the same things I have with doctors. Their issues were dismissed entirely unless they wanted to have children. It's disgusting that it took me three tries to find a doctor who didn't seem to have baby fever. I know women who are still looking for a doctor who treats them with the respect they deserve. I recommend my gynecological specialist and the regular gynecologist she works with regularly.