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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

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I currently identify as bi but what is the difference

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[–] Dakkaface 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Pan seems to be gender blind, i.e. attracted to people with no regard to gender or attracted to all genders.

Bi has one definition in being attracted to both men and women, both sides of a binary.

Bi also has a less common usage to mean attracted to more than one gender which may or may not include both halves of the binary or the entire spectrum.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

So if I like the whole spectrum I'm pan? For fucks sake, what am I gonna do with all the bi stuff I made

[–] Dakkaface 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Keep it? I think Bi is the big umbrella which contains pan, omni and poly/multi.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I heard of omni but what is poly/multi? I'm new to the terminology

[–] Dakkaface 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

S'okay. I'm pretty new to it myself. I'm reading articles and stuff as I write this.

Using this as a reference: Pan is gender blind, omni is all genders but gender does matter and may include preference, poly is more than 2 but not all genders. Bi is a big tent that includes all of these.

[–] WaltJRimmer 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bi can also mean attracted to the whole spectrum. Really, what it's come to mean is attracted to more than one sex/gender.

I agree with Fleur more that Bi means that you're attracted to multiple sexes/genders similar to pan, but pan is effectively genderblind whereas sex/gender is still a factor for bi folks, it's just not a factor that excludes most people.

But these definitions aren't entirely agreed on. If you feel more comfortable identifying as bi, that's fine. If you feel more comfortable identifying as pan, that's also fine. We're very, very similar to the point that it's common for people to not know the difference. The distinction appears to be more personal.

[–] PostmodernPythia 2 points 1 year ago

Even the Bisexual Manifesto, from the 90s, didn’t limit bisexuality to two genders. It hasn’t “come to mean” that recently. It pretty much always did.