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I apparently got shadow banned almost a year ago from blahaj, for a comment I made on lemmy.world
(lemmy.sdf.org)
For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.
They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.
I'm just trying to figure out what people have a problem with for your statement.
Were you not being inclusive? And 'dude is gender neutral' has been something I've heard since I was a boy, and I'm much older now and no longer a boy, and that's never really bothered me or any of my friends.
Someone else pointed out the "get over it" part might have been abrasive, and I'm inclined to agree I probably shouldn't have included that part.
Primarily because if someone explicitly asked me to not say "dude" to them, I'd oblige because it's really just such an unimportant thing.
I guess what I was trying to convey was if their knee jerk reaction was to be outright offended, that's less my problem and more theirs.
Yeah I'd agree with that. I'll never be rude on purpose, so if my behavior is causing you discomfort please let me know so I can fix it. But if feelings get hurt that fast, it's not something within my realm to control (unless I want to change how I talk within my circles and with my loved ones, and random stranger doesn't meet that bar).
Ohh so you are not willing to accommodate needs of some random online commenter who is having an identity crisis of a comment not even directed at them.
That's shitlording!
I tried typing up a response, but I feel I don't quite grasp whay you wrote. Can you rewrite it with some additional grammatical structures to separate clauses or just change it around so I can try and understand?
If not, i guess I didn't meet your random internet stranger bar, but I'm hardly having a crisis so maybe it doesn't count for you.
Sarcasm and hyperbolic speech
Oh I'm bad at that, sorry. But thank you for clarifying!
It depends upon who you ask. Some people think it's gender neutral; some don't. If you don't want to offend people, you should ask.
I don't feel like asking random people on the internet I will only interact with once whether or not they support the word dude. If it bothers them, they can inform me and I can apologize. But I guess, in relation to your comment, that would just boil down to me being okay with offending people who are upset if a 'first conversation' involves me using the wrong 'friend' word.
Putting a bit of a burden here on general public here lol