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No gf, no friends, it's hard to meet new people. Tinder and other apps don't work. Idk even if I travel somewhere I'm alone

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Yes sometimes I try to talk with someone, sometimes it's enforced by teachers when do we have to finish group work. Meeting people in university is ok but I still feel like my age is a hindrance. I'm 27yo when my groupmates are all in their early 20s. I feel old to them, especially when it comes to women. I have a few people I talk to when I'm at university, but still, I only talk to them at university.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I still feel like my age is a hindrance. I’m 27yo when my groupmates are all in their early 20s. I feel old to them, especially when it comes to women.

I was in a similar situation during my first round of grad school. In retrospect, there was no need for me to feel self-conscious. A lot of guys are still pretty immature in their early 20s. By comparison, a guy in their late 20s can be mature and reliable.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Well, that's a good starting point. The age thing probably isn't as big a deal as you think, but there are probably other people close to your age studying there too, it might just be a little harder to find them.

I guess all I can say is keep putting yourself out there, and don't focus too hard on anything more serious than friendships while you're feeling lonely. Be kind to yourself and I think the rest will follow