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Good advice, but from personal experience, romance does not come naturally.
I know that it's not true for some people, but many people want love more than they want friends, and their constant seeking love cause otherwise simple friendships to get awkward and fizzle out.
Maybe, but to those who romance would appear naturally when in a friends group, they would not be in this position in the first place.
Yes, this is about the people who it does not come naturally to. I'm saying surrounding yourself with friends will help with loneliness and friends can either become romantic interests OR better yet they introduce you to people you may get interested in.
Don't overthink it. We can't give advice to solve all of someone's problems. We can get them in a better spot though.
Probability, chance. Do things that regularly put you face to face with people and you will have many more opportunities to make friends and meet love interests.
That is one of my favorite angles when trying to lift up someone who is discouraged about dating or friendship. Our minds are not equipped to really understand just how big the world is. There are a functionally infinite amount of people to meet. Even if you filtered humanity down to fluent speakers of your language, your preferred gender, close in age, you're probably looking at more introductions / blind dates than you could ever possibly accommodate in your lifetime. It sounds trite to say "there are always more fish in the sea" but you can always keep trying.
Exactly, you don't gain anything forcing yourself like that