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The driving license thing is something you could struggle through. I mean it's not nice if you got some asshole as instructor. That happens. And you need to sit in a car next to them for quite some hours... I know this might suck hard... But I mean if you have 0 motivation to succeed, that could also explain the lack or progress. Or you'd need to change the instructor if they're the problem.
Edit: And regarding the broader topic: It's really really harmful to just sit around and do nothing and get nowhere. You need something in your life. Either goals. Or at least something to do. Pretty much anything, even going out and just drinking (unless you're have issues with alcohol) is better than that (in my uninformed opinion). Maybe volunteer or do sports. But you need to do something. I'd say pick something that's easy to begin with.
With regard to goals, if you're in a rut and don't know how to get out of it, make "be an observer" a goal. It doesn't take much effort, and no matter what's going on around you, you can already observe it. Try to observe without making snap judgments; you're practicing paying attention right now. When you do start to make judgments about things (whether immediately or with some distance), double check your conclusions, thinking about whether those conclusions actually follow your observations.
You should gain a tiny bit of comfort from having a little more control over your thought processes, more conclusions based on what you know, and fewer based on what you fear. This tiny bit of comfort is just a little stepstool that gets you up off the bottom of your hole. From there, you can start building another step. Eventually, you'll have a staircase, but you need to build it, and you need to climb it.
I think that aligns well with the general advice on how to get somewhere and how to start moving: You take one step at a time...
And if you're really down, the only thing that matters is that you do any. And make it a habit to do it regularly. You can worry about the size of the steps and the direction later, after you stopped being completely down and disheartened. But I'm not a psychologist...
I agree wholeheartedly with this. Do something. Set set a goal for the day, and make it something that is easily achievable and preferably not something with dependencies (e.g. "couldn't go for the walk I planned because I needed a car to get there").
On the topic of walks; I think I used that example because walking/moving about very often help my head change gears. I might suddenly see opportunities I didn't before, or find the desire to do something I might've somewhat been dreading..