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I believe I have a similar issue as you. I've described it as being caught in a maximization trap. See, I spend all day thinking about the fun things I'll do when I have free time. However, when I get home, I have a huge amount of difficulty selecting what activity to engage in from my plethora of options. I'm inexplicably terrified of making the "wrong" choice. Like, what if I choose to play Game A, but that only offers 6.9 units of fun per hour, when I could be playing game B, which offers 7.1? So, instead of actually doing anything, I sit down at an intersection of options and have a panic attack about my inability to actually do anything.
I wish I had a silver bullet recommendation for you, but this is an ongoing struggle for me. I try to be cognizant of when I'm starting to fall into the thinking trap of "maximizing fun" and shut it down before it spoils the evening. As others have said, taking notes throughout the day when inspiration does strike, rather than telling myself I'll remember when I get home does help to some extent. Additionally being open to alternative forms of entertainment helps as well. What I mean is, sometimes when I'm upset with myself for not being able to force myself to just start a game and see if I like it, I'm so hyper fixated on the gaming aspect that I ignore the possibility my body/brain is saying, "probably enough screentime for today, don't you think?", and select a book instead. Or go for a walk. Or "meditate" (read as: listen to music while stoned).
Good luck buddy, keep your stick on the ice, and remember, we're all in this together.
I’ve always known this as “analysis paralysis” and it’s super common in certain fields and certain people. I work with a lot of engineers and this is the bane of my existence some days at work. But I get it, I do the same thing sometimes.
I usually break out of cycles like this when something gets so bad I have to fix it which leads to a short period of hyper productivity that is exhausting but at least things are getting done? I also ask my wife to choose something to do, then I don’t get stuck letting perfect be the enemy of done.
Haha, I had this, but with life. I was paralyzed for years. Finally solved it in September by setting mu life up to give me as much flexibility as possible. If I stop liking it here, nothing is (any longet) keeping me from moving cities at a week's notice.