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I hate that my memory appears to save snapshots the best in moments of rejection and piqued anxiety.
There are so many things I remember only because I was scared or upset.
Yeah. Human memory evolved to keep us alive not happy. Brain assumes anything that stressful must be life threatening and we obviously should remember that so we can avoid it in the future.
I personally find having a rational understanding of the utility of emotions helps me process them.
It definitely helps. You can sometimes logic yourself out of a spiral by acknowledging the emotion and why it's there, while simultaneously rejecting the need for feeling it right now.
It's like "hey cool thanks brain I get that you want me to make sure that the bad thing doesn't happen again so you're looping that memory and the feeling that came with it. But actually that's not helpful, that situation actually (wasn't dangerous) / (won't happen again) / (isn't something I can solve right now), so let's move on."
With practice, brain usually says "ok no worries", and you can move on. It's not really that simple but that's the idea.