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If you read my previous post on other place I asked about dating and most responses sounded like it was nice. Yes, I'm aware that relationships are not only good times (I've seen my mother being tired of her partner and scared of my father) but when you have literally NOTHING in your life you can't help to idolising the things you never had...

I don't think that's weird, but it's definitely sad

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Why do people always assume I haven’t?

I assumed that you have some sort of nerve pain like your friend and it would be unbearable.

Digestive issues are textbook examples of psychosomatic problems so I am less surprised that they didn't help you. Maybe in what they are saying is a kernel of a truth but that's not for me to judge as I have my own life to live and you have yours.

I have high hopes that therapy will help you.

Yeah, you do know what you’re talking about when you say “I am totally clueless”. No offense, but spot on.

I am basically Socrates. And now I don't know what to do with that lack of knowledge. Maybe I should build a time machine and stroll around in an ancient Greece or study philosophy with my inflated ego. /j

[–] Dasus 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Maybe in what they are saying is a kernel of a truth

So symptoms can appear before a supposed cause has happened?

I never had any problems with mood as a kid. Now that I can't work, I do.

Hmm.

Almost as if there was a correlation. Which leads me to journals and basically logs of my shit I have. Which quite clearly show the correlation. Also sleep diaries (band recorder from wrist) from the better part of a year, and still. They said I don't need sleep studies (which me and my psychiatrist were pushing for) as "just give him more antipsychotics".

Maybe in what they are saying is a kernel of a truth

There literally isn't and I've personally studied this personal issue for my entire fucking life, and know what helps what doesn't and what is psychosomatic and what isn't. As I've gone through all variations, such as when I fast, pretty much all of the problems go away, only to be replaced by the alight ones the fasting causes, but they're nothing in comparison. Then I can stress myself out in any ways and still have none of those psychosomatic symptoms.

Maybe people should accept doctors are people and people can make mistakes. But no. So they can't accept anything has been wrong and I could have a point. And they can't even defend their bullshit, but when I made a complaint to the ombudsman, quoting ICD-10 and the current local doctoral guidelines, still nothing, "Nah nothing wrong done, you're just a junkie."

I the problems since I was a kid. I started smoking weed the first time around 17-18.

Most of my current psychosomatic issues come from the rage I get from having to deal with people like you

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Maybe in what they are saying is a kernel of a truth

sorry. I shouldn't have said that. I made a bunch of assumptions and I have really strong desire to help people, so I have made a mistake.

I’ve personally studied this personal issue for my entire fucking life

I would also be outraged if some armchair expert or worse an actual expert spew lies towards me and my situation. Even if I can't offer a solution at least I can be emphatic towards your suffering and your struggle.

I can't really offer you much other than virtual hug or a prayer to a higher power for a better tomorrow. Take care of yourself as it seems that no one else will.

[–] Dasus 1 points 3 months ago

It's alright man.

I can see you clearly mean well.

I'm just very frustrated about that. Slightly triggering.

Take care of yourself as it seems that no one else will.

Thanks. I still have at least 1.5 years of therapy left and he's a really good British guy, and people don't get be homeless in Finland too easily, so that's a bonus. The people and systems just suck and the rightwing government is making them shittier as fast as they can.