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I'm aware that I'm worthless but still can't turn off that libido or sexual desire and is killing me. Another thing to add to the list of failures as an male adult.

No job, own place, car, friends, virgin. Why am I even alive?

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[–] 2ugly2live 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

You're not worthless, you're lonely and seemingly frustrated.

I don't know why you think you can just turn off your libido, you're a human being, that's pretty much built in. Not to belittle your feelings, but I just don't see how something innately human makes someone worthless.

I know it sounds daunting, but start with the job (hear me out). I don't know you're background/age, but a job can help not just with money, but socializing. I'm not saying getting a job is easy by any means, but it'll be the first step in making yourself feel more empowered, since three of the five things you mentioned are related to job/income.

A just drop "virgin" from the list. Not saying to not look for love, but being virgin at any age doesn't make anyone worthless.

I believe that your goals are achievable, but they all require time to really see the fruits of your labor, and that can really suck in the here and now. You're not worthless, just at a different part of your own journey, at your own pace. Nothing is wrong with that or you.

Even if you don't believe in yourself, believe in the me that believes in you, because I'm sure you can do it.

~~sorry this is so long~~

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I can't find a job. That's the problem

[–] 2ugly2live 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If you're comfortable saying, what experience/background do you have? Any disabilities or jobs you're unable to do (either mentally or physically) I don't want to rattle stuff off that's not pertinent. Oh, and country, or where abouts?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Warehouse. That's it. And I have no education beyond middle school. But that's typical for immigrants in Europe. Applied for Amazon and MC Donald's were supposedly "anyone gets a job" but nothing. There's literally NOTHING for me. And no, moving from here isn't an option.

[–] 2ugly2live 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

How's your typing? Do you think you'd be interested in data entry? Not the highest paying gig, but it could be a start. I'd day customer service, but they usually want at least a high school degree, but you could try retail. Are there and manual jobs around, such as construction (if that's an option).

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

No, I don't know how to use a computer well or typing. There's nothing and I don't have a car or license

[–] BottleOfAlkahest 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

There are some countries in Europe that provide out free employment skill classes. Maybe look in you're local area, many of them can teach you basic computer skills.

Edit: You've made multiple posts on Lemmy where there are some minor tech barriers to entry so you certainly aren't unteachable.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Dude, I just had to insert a email address. That's it.