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How can you make sure the ashes you get after a loved one dies is actually theirs?
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I think it depends entirely on the integrity of the cremator. I have a good friend who does pet cremations. He cremated one of my pets and told me that he had a hell of a hard time getting the bag of ashes into the box I gave him. I laughed and asked him why he didn't just pour some out so the bag would fit more easily. Who would know? Who would care if there were a few grams missing? Especially if the reason was that the client-provided box was too small. But he was genuinely shocked and said he would never do that.
That's surprising to hear, because I heard that pet cremation services generally cremate multiple pets at once and give you some random ashes. That's why we buried our dogs instead of having them cremated.
Depending on the company, you often have the option of either a group or a private cremation. Group cremation is what you described, but private cremation ensures you only get your pet's ashes returned. The company my vet uses even offers the option for you to be present and view the cremation.
At my local pet crematory, I was able to pick which service I preferred. Having your pet cremated by itself is much more expensive so they give the option to have them cremated together with other animals to save money (or actually be able to afford it)
This is how it was done where I worked. If you asked for ashes, we just went and scooped out an appropriate amount of ash.
Sometimes the animal was still just sitting in the burn pile (we only burned on certain days). Also the 'cremation' furnace was just a modified 50gal drum. So you had to cut up any of the larger dogs. Small animals (kittens or anything smaller than a regular sized cat) we just threw in the dumpster.
As you can imagine, that job sucked.
Gosh that is fucking awful!