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Hey guys, I moved away from home and I miss it every day.

Is anyone in the same position or had the same experience and what helped? Now that we bought the house and have a debt I can't easily get back to where I came from in the near future. Lucky enough though it's only a 8 minute drive (the town I use to live in is about 5 miles away from where I live now).

I think a big part of my thoughts circling is that I grew up in the other town and know all the people and in the town I now live in I barely know anyone... I can't explain they aren't unfriendly, infact most are welcoming and friendly, but have different interests than I do.

My old town had a nice lake that was a 5 minute walk. Now I can't even walk to the lake anymore and even by bike it is about 30 minutes away.

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[–] Dud 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like it's time to start searching for things in your town that align with your interests and meet people doing that, or perhaps start talking with these friendly people and start probing them about these hobbies you don't share.

You can't really continue the old ways in a new place, you have to meet at a middle point. You also can't expect this strange new place to cater to you when you're technically the outsider with a different viewpoint. Acclimate, take it as a good chance to branch out, and eventually start introducing your own views and ideas otherwise you'll just keep walling yourself off.

[–] Rolando 3 points 6 months ago

start probing them about these hobbies you don’t share.

Want to emphasize this. A lot of things that sound kind of boring in the abstract, are actually a lot of fun when you're doing them with other people.