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Why couldn't this call be an email? Why would you call, when you know that you are near indistinguishable from spam calls about Microsoft services and Nigerian princes?

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[–] owenfromcanada 32 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Shortly after getting a cell phone, I made a personal policy that most people don't get a free pass to interrupt my life whenever they want (there are a handful of people on the short list, of course). I've had friends and family comment that I'm hard to contact by phone, and I've always pleasantly agreed (and explained politely if they seem interested). Even texts or other messages can wait until I'm at a good place to respond.

For me, having my phone on silent most of the time is a mental health thing. I know people that have their attention diverted every few minutes, and I have no idea how they survive.

[–] Rhynoplaz 23 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Try having a brain that is compelled to actively search for new distractions, and

[–] KnightontheSun 14 points 4 months ago
[–] owenfromcanada 8 points 4 months ago

My wife has ADHD. I feel you, fam.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

When my dad wants to talk, he texts me something like "Hey Stephen, give me a call when you have a chance", and then I oblige when I have a chance. Most of the time it probably could have been an entirely text exchange, but whatever.

When my mom wants to talk, she just calls out of the blue, I don't answer, and usually we don't end up talking.

...I forgot where exactly I was going with this, but something about lining the call up beforehand

[–] owenfromcanada 3 points 4 months ago

Yeah, at this point, it's polite to arrange a call, especially if it's probably more than a minute or two. And as you've noted, it's also more successful than a cold call.