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Discussion of contraception
She may not have intended anything sus by it, it may have been a conciliatory gesture. But I understand the concern during a rough patch. It might put your mind at ease to actively prevent any surprises until you know what the plan is.I guess continue using a barrier method from here on in and note that you are still within the 72 hour window for her to take Plan B. If taken within 24 hours it's even more effective. Hit up the chemist asap.
If you want to be doubly sure in future there are long acting reversible contraceptives for women such as Depo Provera injections or Implanon. But if you don't want to ask her to do this or want to be completely sure that a procedure has actually been carried out - then the patent for Vasalgel (reversible alternative to vasectomy) has been bought and is projected to be available in 2026 under the name Plan A.
Yeah I hope so. I cant believe she is the type to be that manipulative. I honestly have a hard time believe ANYONE could do that to another person. Sure, you hear stories, but Ive never heard of it happening to someone I know.
I might talk to her tonight and just get a clearer picture of her expectations re having another kid. I'm pretty sure she'll say "lets weather the current storm and see where things land" and that'll put my mind at ease.
I did see that injectable contraception for dudes. I didnt know it was so close!
Ohh! I thought Vasalgal had been dropped by corporate fucknuckles! This is fantastic news! More options for everyone 😺
Same, I actively checked for the purpose of making that post.
Now adapt it for use by everybody, and (with parental permission and/or an opt-in scheme) make it available for free in schools the same as the Gardasil vaccination. That would save a lot of hassle and keep a lot of young lives on track.
That would be amazing. Zero “accidents”. Only deliberate decisions by two genetic parents. Bonus if family can be legally more than those two if desired.
Many will yell eugenics if you need to get birth control turned off. Frankly, I don’t care.
I look at it as a safety feature, allowing young bodies to mature before the strain of reproducing (being quite young = higher risk pregnancies) and young minds to mature before a life altering event. It doesn't carry the health risks of other long acting contraceptives, ie. the effects of long term Depo Provera on bone density.
Also there's the whole opt-in aspect of voluntarily signing up for it - it's explicitly by choice. Having it reversed should also be free.
Also there should still be supports to finish education, get housing and secure jobs/pensions even if there were unplanned pregnancies. Allowing young or single parents to struggle and kids to grow up in poverty/unstable situations is inhumane and just creates future problems.
I agree with pretty much everything you say, while admitting there is a potential for abusive denial.
Personally never broke a bone until over 30. Can long term Depo be blamed for that change? Dunno. Surgically fixed now so hormonal funkiness is all ‘natural’
Abusive denial like parents not giving permission? Yeah. Unfortunately with all the push around 'parents rights' I can't see kids being automatically allowed to do this without parental permission. I think there may be permissions for minors to seek existing reproductive care without parents being notified but I'd have to double check.
It could also be abusive by being forced on disabled or young people by guardians/the government but that's already been happening for a long time with other methods.