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Can't spell abandon without ABA

Instead of getting to actually know your child, you assume some vague meaningless word caused their problems, toss them in some "school" that is supposed to "help" with those problems, while ignoring and disregarding the child's needs.

Hey, guess what? Isolating your child and treating them like a joke at best and a burden you and the entire world is better off without at worst, is quite literally a traumatic experience for your child. Literally not hugging your child causes touch starvation which could develop into goddamn PTSD.

But like everything else you and literal professional child abusers have done to your child, you'll call the affects of their anguish "autism" and just not do anything about it! Every other child could be suicidal because of bullies and abusive family, but your child is only suicidal because autism. Children pee and poop themselves when physically or sexually abused, but your child only suffers because autism. Instead of getting to the bottom of what's causing your child's suffering, you call it autism and ignore it or try to cover it up.

These "schools" destroy the child and literally gaslights them into believing every part of being a human being is a spoiled hissy fit tantrum. That wiping your ass is a tantrum because you just don't like having wet privates after using the toilet. That showering and having clean underwear is a tantrum because you just don't like not being clean. The child would regress entirely on healthy habits while being uncomfortable and itchy, and not say or do anything because they believe that's being a "good kid". And you believe your child is gross because autism and not because they literally got abused into believing their comfort and health don't matter.

You have no idea what your child is going through in "school" and you don't care since it's not one of your actually loved children. You must only act like you care for an excuse to yell at someone since you literally abuse, bully, and neglect your child in the same ways, if not worse, at home.

So many children could have grown into actually functional adults but their futures are brutally taken from them by a meaningless word that literally has no definition. They're raised to be dependent corpses in those "schools", the parents think the child becoming a corpse is solely a result of autism, and the children are locked away in group homes where they live lives so mediocre and sad that the best thing they will ever had experienced was eating a candy bar when they were 6 years old.

That stupid word ruins lives before they're given a chance to start. Get to know your fucking child. Raise your fucking child. Your TV and Netflix will be there later, your child's childhood won't.

Edit: formatting/grammar, also looks like I'm being downvoted by people who lived real childhoods and rode public transit or walked to real school and grew up real humans who were raised to be real functioning adult human people in real human society who took a trendy TikTok test and call themselves autistic for internet clout that literally won't matter in a year; then spread how autism is not that bad, how they don't suffer as often, and how they wish they were diagnosed as a child so they could have been "helped" while having zero idea what "help" is like for children that aren't seen as humans or even rats (literally if an animal went through what I went through, my abusers would be jailed for animal cruelty); all while spreading harmful misinformation like autism being The Reason Why they like drawing anthropomorphic animal characters, playing popular video games, enjoying things aimed at younger audiences, or knowing a lot about a random subject; all for literally imaginary internet points that don't matter to anyone else and won't matter to them in a year. You got internet points at the cost of pushing disability rights back to when the nazis were euthanizing babies. Was it worth it?

I believe it was purely for reasons of expansion. I don't know exactly what our response should have been, but we need to at least acknowledge that Ukraine is defending their sovereignty and Putin/Russia are the aggressors. We should support them at least minimally.

So a bit about me, I'm a very practical-oriented, some might say cheap person. I look at excessive luxury as a moral failing at any wealth level, either because you should be giving that money to charity, or because you should be saving it so you don't end up needing charity yourself someday.

However, finding a woman with a compatible mindset has always been a challenge, and it seems to be getting harder every year. I've been dating mostly online for a good while, and prior to the pandemic I pretty much never ran into a woman with a lot of luxuries in her life. Now it seems like almost every profile features a woman showing off a LV/YSL/Gucci purse that cost 4 figures or more. These luxury brand purchases are the hardest thing for me to relate to, because it's just the brand - it's purely to signal that you could afford to send some corporation your hard-earned money for virtually no reason. And you don't have to take my word for it, luxury goods are booming, especially among gen Y and Z.

Problem is, I'm finding it harder and harder to cut this massive chunk of the population out of my dating pool. I'm also attracted to the look of feminine accessories like jewelry and heels (isn't everyone?). And while I don't care if it's cheap accessories, there seems to be basically a 100% overlap between women who wear feminine accessories and those who like spending lots of money on brand names. I kinda hit rock bottom recently when I went on a date with a low-wage worker which made me excited that maybe I finally found someone down to earth enough, and then even she showed up with a $1200 purse (yes I looked it up).

So it's time to pause and seek alternative perspectives. I want to keep looking for the cheap-yet-feminine woman. But at the same time, I feel increasingly like I'm being an extremist. Is there some way I can understand the need for luxury brand purchases differently so I can find it more acceptable in a long term partner?

So many things behave exponentially that it makes sense to measure time exponentially.

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#cmv

…or at least only non-romantic love. I’m learning about history of western philosophy and understand that Plato’s Symposium describes his theory on love and that a person initially desires physical love, but then eventually grows to love things that feel fulfilling, and eventually love the ideal form of beauty itself. It seems like more of a spectrum/progression that includes romantic/physical love, not abstaining from it. “Platonic love” would seem to include physical love and doesn’t seem consistent with the dictionary definition of “friendship love.”

Any thoughts on that?

like jesus feels sexier than family and historical slaughter

Stop looking at me, Swan?!

I just want to dip my toe in ChangeMyView, I love the idea. Let's do a practice round