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[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

No no.. Don't blame yourself. You did nothing wrong here. Very scientifically speaking we still have no clear answer on how the sexuality of a person is determined. So far there is a consensus that there is a biological factor also in play.

It is not your failure as a partner. These are things beyond your control. She also can't do much on this. Therapy won't change the underlying reality. It will just help you to cope up with the hard realities that you are facing.

I highly recommend you take individual therapy if you haven't done so far. You may have to untangle decades of experiences to get in terms with it. It's never late, and the right therapist will definitely improve how you handle this.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

Oh so sorry. I didn't realise you were talking about the situation you are in. I thought the first comment was just a thought experiment. I didn't pay enough attention. My bad.

In your case I guess she can be in the asexual part of the spectrum. One of my friends is facing a similar situation. The partner has no sex drive at all. But the partner is a great person in every other area. That relationship sustained because my friend also has a lower sex drive, but more than what the partner has.

Since this has been so long, I assume you have already tried the couple therapy and individual therapy. If not that is one thing you can try out.

But keep in mind that if your partner is really asexual, there isn't much that you can do. It's not their fault in any way. So either you have to accept the situation and build a life around this fact, or you have to move on. Since you have been in the relationship for a long time, I guess everything else is going well. Means you have already chosen the first option.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Oh, I was not aware about the 2022 policy. Thanks for sharing. I completely agree with the last point that if they retain the '.io', it will be a complete opposite of the written policy.

My company has a '.io' domain. We have to plan for the scenario of '.io' getting retired, I guess.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (5 children)

I think the point here is to give it more time and explore as much as possible. No conclusive statements, like this method will work or will not work, cannot be and should not be made considering the smaller time frame they have been together. There are multiple options the OP and the partner can try out if they want.

TBH I am glad the OP is thinking about the long term. The more they explore, the more they will be certain what they can and cannot.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 day ago (9 children)

Couple of pointers. One, if she is on any medication, check for any side effects. That includes any birth control pills. Two, you mentioned neither she masturbates nor she has experience, hence I would suggest that she may try masturbating if she is okay to try out. That may uncover more about her body.

Also if she lacks experience, it can take months for her to be completely comfortable and enjoy it, because relaxing is not very easy for everyone.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I don't think that is how it works.

Some info on how these top level domains came into existence can be learned from this video

You'll never guess the most popular internet country code

There are many ccTLD retained by ICAN after the country became non-existent. The Soviet Union is an example.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

For those who are confused, the comment meant to say

52*51*50*....*3*2*1

i.e. 52 × 51 × 50 × ... × 3 × 2 × 1

Markdown syntax screwed it up.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Maybe OP is part of a law enforcement entity!!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

Giving you the benefit of doubt here.

"/s" technically means "this comment is sarcastic in nature". But also commonly used with bad jokes and puns as well, indicating that this is indeed nonsense, and I'm aware of it, but I decided to say it anyway.

The previous comment was just a bad and cliche joke that is common in internet forums, referencing the "Skynet" from the "Terminator" movie series.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Your tricks won't work, skynet! 😜 /s

[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (7 children)

"I hope this message finds you well", is a marker I have been using to detect GPT replies. Looks like this is from ChatGPT.

Also it says "BLOB feature" and "BLOB functionality". What in the coconut does that mean? "BLOB feature is an important aspect for our app." Come on..

It's really pathetic that they didn't even try to read it at least once.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Aah I should have clarified more. My bad.

This is only an issue when the ventilation is very low, means when accumulation of Radon gas happens in some form. In spaces with ventilation it should not be a problem.

But Radon is "one of the leading causes of lung cancer, in non-smokers" . So not critical, but caution must be there is what I understood.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Edit: @Successful_[email protected] solved it. It says "one special character". Not "at least one".

 

I'm looking into ways to access my home network which is behind a CGNAT. Tailscale looks like the best solution so far. I would like to clarify a doubt on Tailscale

I have a domain name registered with one of the popular services out there. I saw that Tailscale uses MagicDNS. But I wanted to use my personal domain. My doubt is if I want to use my custom domain with Tailscale, the following will be the procedure,

  1. Setup Tailscale account and add machines.
  2. My device inside the home network will get a Tailscale IP assigned. From 100.xx.xx.xx pool
  3. Use this IP to configure an A record in my Domain registrar.

Now when I try to access this domain what will happen is,

  1. DNS server will resolve the Tailscale IP.
  2. The outside client will try to connect to my machine in the home network.
  3. Tailscale takes care of the CGNAT part and helps to establish a direct connection.
  4. Clients will use the public keys to establish trust and will communicate with each other.

If there is anything wrong in my understanding please correct me. I could not get a clear cut answer on this through searching.

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"The Factory Must Grow" (www.youtube.com)
submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/factorio
 

Solstice - 5 is a CGI short created by Paul Chadeisson, which discusses a situation where factories which create warships, kept growing on its own

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