lwuy9v5

joined 2 years ago
[–] lwuy9v5 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

VLC runs great on Mac and Android as well

[–] lwuy9v5 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You know, “hatch”. But it’s funnier saying door. Could a ship just dock with it, equalise pressure, and open the hatch? Or is there some sort of security? I tend to think ‘no’ because of a macabre situation where the crew are dead and the station is being recovered. But it’s amusing to think in space they don’t need to keep the doors locked.

"Lockpicking lawyer here, and this one is a doozy"

[–] lwuy9v5 16 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Behavioral mirroring is often a sign of trust or comfort, and applies to levels of eye contact as well. If someone is subconsciously doing the same things you are doing (e.g. longer and more direct eye contact if you initiate, more or slower blinking, more smiling, more relaxed postures to mirror yours), those are good signs of interest.

The converse is also true. If you are doing a lot of direct eye contact, and it seems like the other person is often looking away or closing up their body (crossed arms or rotating their torso away), that's a sign to reduce some of those behavioral signals to match.

I'd say there isn't a "This exact amount" to most things, as people are all different in their preferences, and it's more about adjusting up and down with someone, in response to their small non-verbal or body language signals. They will likely be doing the same with you. Also, as others have mentioned - you can be more direct with words. If this is something you're unfamiliar with and there's someone you trust, you can say directly that you're uncertain and ask something like "I'm not great at knowing how much eye contact feels correct, could you let me know if you notice too much or too little?". If they are friendly with you, they'll also likely be comfortable with the small request.

Also, just to say it - eye contact can mean the general eye area - it doesn't mean your exact pupil to their exact pupil. I find that if I focus on the literal eye/pupil, then I get strained trying and keep attention on that specific small area. If I focus on the general eye area (nose/forehead/eyebrow/general eye) - they both can't tell that it's indirect eye contact and it's easier to let my body auto pilot focus

[–] lwuy9v5 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Hardware stores might have cheap gel knee pads ($10 -> $40 for fancier ones)

There's also these kneeling mats / pads

[–] lwuy9v5 2 points 3 months ago

and there's so many DIFFERENT purples! Lavender, fuchsia!

[–] lwuy9v5 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I've been trying to practice more natural looks, this looks great!

[–] lwuy9v5 11 points 8 months ago

TypeError is also a correct response, though, and I think many folks would say makes more sense. Is an unnecessary footgun

[–] lwuy9v5 4 points 9 months ago

I'm upset that you made me see this with my own eyes.

[–] lwuy9v5 5 points 10 months ago (3 children)

You've never used charcoal for a grill?

[–] lwuy9v5 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

No one is entitled to you, to touch you, or to hurt you. Your time and compassion is a gift you choose to give to others not a thing that is ever owed.

People can lose the privilege of access to you, and boundaries are ALWAYS okay and appropriate. Boundaries are even more okay and appropriate if you are being hurt - emotionally or physically. People repeatedly crossing your boundaries are people that are likely to continue to repeatedly cross your boundaries.

A good partner doesn't get mad when you go to things and have a good time. A good partner doesn't need to convince you to stay with them, a good partner doesn't repeatedly hurt you.

This sounds like a person that you know is causing you harm and who is now trying to manipulate you to let them continue to have access to your or to harm you. I am sure the situation is more nuanced, and there are a lot of complicated feelings - but consider that things could escalate (and sound like they are escalating) to a point that they are hurting you FAR more or trapping you into a situation that they can prevent you from leaving. Please be careful, this sounds like a time to start considering worst-case scenarios to keep yourself from ending up in the hospital or dead. Do they have keys to your place? Do they have any weapons or access to them? Do they have access to your work? Do you have anyone to stay with for some time?

You shared multiple examples here of finding happiness on your own, and juxtaposed those examples with sounding scared or harmed when you spend time with him. Please be safe.

[–] lwuy9v5 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Tight fitting is great for any gender. Love to see what it shows off. Loose/drapey can be fun too - seeing a sexy body peaking out underneath

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What are your favorite spots to go in New England?

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