larsthespacepirate

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there are tons of new products coming! these leaks, from u/tsukiko1994 on the bad app, show some things we've already seen come out, along with tons of new clothes, and of course, some wonderful new bears. lots of jumbo plushies coming soon! reminder to not post leaks that could get someone fired. these are from an ex shift-lead :) sorry for the small size, due to the one-image limit

[–] larsthespacepirate 6 points 1 year ago

I honestly enjoy this app more than the basic reddit app except for the lack of people in my communities. it wasn't the best experience at first (late june), but now I really like it on here

[–] larsthespacepirate 3 points 1 year ago

I think my first reply deleted, but that makes so so much sense. I learned about that in communication class and completely forgot. for me, i like you statements because they have clear intentions and instructions, but I need to try and remember that most people don't see it that way

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago

yeahhhh I'm fine with the norm in life outside of my family... but it's also so tiring to do it constantly. I wish they would understand and try and find something that works for us all like I do. none of us should have to go through the day dreading the next interaction. but I also don't want to upset people, and I get people find it off-putting. I just wish there was an easy way to make it all work together, since I spend all the time outside of my house following norms. also yes! I loved it when I went to Europe, I found communicating with people in the countries I've visited there much easier than in America

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago

yessss I feel like my "normal" tone or whatever you call it is generally perceived as cold no matter what I'm talking about. and usually I can cover it but when I'm tired or stressed it can be exausting doing it all say

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I definitely want to communicate in a way everyone likes. since I can't control how my words are perceived, i try really hard usually to fit other people's standards. I don't want to make communication hard for others like people make if for me. and I don't want to upset anyone. but then when i ignore how i want to communicate, when im stressed all the bluntness comes out in full force. I really hope we can find a good group compromise, cause I don't want people to be offended or me to be exausted.

[–] larsthespacepirate 1 points 1 year ago

I hope they see that I usually try to cover my bluntness, it just comes out in times of stress and then people get upset and then there's even more stress. and it's really tiring always covering it. when I talked to them about it, my sister at least listened, and we're working on finding what's best for both of us, so a compromise IS possible. everyone older than 20 in my family just refuses to change lmao

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago

I actually think that that could work with my family. thank you!

[–] larsthespacepirate 3 points 1 year ago

that's so cool, what? I'll definitely have to look that up, maybe try and make it a thing in my neighborhood 👀 it would definitely be helpful, as there are dogs in over half the houses in my neighborhood

[–] larsthespacepirate 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I have tried communicating with my family their way for years. i try to talk to them about my needs. they still don't listen, nor work on communicating, except for my sister. I'm exausted from trying to communicate in the way they want with nothing changing. im tired every day i interact with them because they wont listen to my mental needs, just physical. i want our communication to be a compromise, but they won't try to even understand why this way of communicating works for me. i would be completely ok meeting them in the middle if they tried. I want to meet them in the middle for all of our sakes. but no. and my father IS a narcissist so maybe don't assume. he's straight up said that we communicate how he wants to communicate or he won't listen. I'm not the one who screams at people when don't talk the way I like (aka both my parents and grandma), I'm just some dude who was exausted and annoyed and went to lemmy to talk it out

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago

that's honestly a really good way to look at it. I guess for me it always feels that someone is pulling the wheel away and not letting me help drive, just saying that i wont help, so when I do get a turn I want to make sure no one misinterprets where I'm going, and there's no BS on the way. but people also want to actually enjoy the drive. which, I think I can try and do more :) my dad makes it super hard, as he won't let other people talk and purposely misconstruse our words, so I think that on top of my AuDHD just makes it super hard to know how firm to be lol. but that's no reason to not work and try and improve 😌

[–] larsthespacepirate 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

that makes a lot of sense, orders are annoying. in the case of the dogs, I'll purposely walk ahead to keep them not tangled, and tell people that, and they walk even closer, so I guess I'm just not thinking about throwing in a please 💀 but hey, now I have a new challege: be polite even when three dogs are ripping you in opposite directions

[–] larsthespacepirate 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

when I talked to my sister about it, she said she understands and it's just different for her, so we both have to work on adjusting to each other, which makes sense. yaknow, find a middle ground. but some people just won't ajust or try to understand and I find it so infuriating

 

i decided to compile a list of all of the upcoming leaks I could find for everyone :) so far I've found... -colorblock frog -giant alien -velvet pumpkin kitty -super sonic -purple kuromi -jumbo charizard -pompompurin -jumbo cinnamoroll -mymelody -pastel hello kitty -pink-red gingham hello kitty -sanrio muffin buddy -bb(?) candy corn kitten -sprigatito -star trek (message from an alleged employee) -teenage mutant ninja turtles (same conversation)

clothes: -butterfly kuromi dress -purple kuromi sleeper -mymelody rainbow dress -kuromi and mymelody t-shirt -hello kitty pastel skirt set -hello kitty bunny sleeper -pompompurin slippers -hello kitty and friends bc(?)

these are leaks found across internet posts, not my own. reminder to never post leaks an employee shares with you in private. I'm really excited for all of these, especially everything sanrio! what do y'all think? what other leaks did I inevitably miss?

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by larsthespacepirate to c/autism
 

lemmy deleted my completely finished post right before posting so let's try this again. I find it so annoying that I have to sugarcoat everything. I feel like I'm coddling people. I understand being polite to strangers, but it's so annoying when my family, who knows I'm autistic, gets upset at my bluntness. I've explained multiple times that I'm not trying to be rude and I'm just trying to communicate in a way that works for me, but it doesn't work. I just don't understand why I have to say "hey, would you mind not letting the dogs tangle? thank you:)" in some high pitched voice when I could just say, "can you not let the dogs tangle?" in a tone that conveys I'm serious. it's so much easier when intentions are simply stated.

edit: I'm having trouble posting comments but thank you for all your responses! it's helping me see things a bit easier, and I definitely have things I can work on now :)

another edit for clarity: my family and I have talked about my communication style. I've tried to find ways to meet them in the middle, as I want a compromise. they've been unsuccessful but I'm continuing to try. I want to be at a point where it's not stressful and exhausting to talk to my family. this was more of just a vent post, as I was feeling really annoyed.

 

this is my second annual birthday party at B.A.B. after not doing parties there for years. we ordered online, but thank god I went to the store to look as well, cause I was able to get Kuromi :) we even did family pictures. overall, I love ordering online and stuffing in-store, it gives a lot more variety, and my guests all loved their plushies (I always call beforehand to make sure we can come at a time without a lot of customers). can't wait to go again next year!

 

I have been into meow wolf since 2019. I've spent days learning lore and writing the Convergence Station wiki. I've been to NM and CO already, but I'm so excited to go to Convergence again. we're going for my birthday, and i havent stopped thinking about it all week. if anyone has any fun hidden things to do while there, let me know! I'm hoping to work on finishing out my QPASS

 

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