dingus

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[–] dingus 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

So I'm not who you asked, but I consider myself to be on the asexual spectrum. No, I don't get horny.

But here's the thing. As a teen, I stumbled into the term asexuality and thought I finally found others like me! But then reading through the forums, most of them seemed to talk about still getting horny and having a libido. They choose to masturbate instead of having sex with a partner. Or, some of them will even still have sex with a partner.

Confusing to me. To me, desiring sexual things at all doesn't fall in line with what the term "asexual" would intuitively seem to mean. It seems like they should have chosen a different term. Still made me feel like an outcast among both the sexual and asexual communities. So people in the community came up with a zillion other terms and sub-terms to describe all the specifics about themselves. To me, it seemed like people were getting lost in the weeds of inventing new words and not seeing the forest.

Anyway...tl;dr is some do, some don't.

[–] dingus 7 points 1 month ago

Sometimes humor doesn't come across well to everyone online. I thought it was funny and upvoted :)

[–] dingus 38 points 1 month ago (3 children)

My new years resolution is to become more chronically online than I am now. Wish me luck.

[–] dingus 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm really sorry to hear :(

[–] dingus 42 points 1 month ago (3 children)

My only thought as to why this could occur is that either the person is intoxicated or has some sort of cognitive issue like dementia OR that it was deliberately done as a sketch to make a viral video. The former are scary to think about. I can understand a "normal" person making this mistake once or twice, but the fact that it's continuous and repeated would lead toward impairment.

[–] dingus 1 points 1 month ago

Ah so yeah. I noticed it was at 0/0 which was odd so I did a quick click on your profile. Tbh I didn't really read any of the content lol. But the 0/0s kind of jump out.

[–] dingus 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Your comment was at 0 upvoted and 0 downvotes, which is only possible if you manually remove your own upvote.

[–] dingus 7 points 1 month ago (9 children)

Why do you remove your own upvote from a lot of your comments?

[–] dingus 1 points 1 month ago

Ah. I have always been the way that I am, so it is not caused by a medical disorder or substance.

[–] dingus 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Well for me, that's why my social anxiety doesn't really exist so much at work. I can simply do my work if I have nothing to say or if no one seems to want to interact with me. And then with the interaction with coworkers bit...I'm literally required to interact with coworkers to perform my job duties. So then branching out into casual chats isn't weird because we were already just discussing work.

If I'm at say...a coffeeshop or something...interaction with other patrons doesn't really make sense contextually...even if I start to recognize the regulars who are there. There is nothing we are doing cooporatively.

[–] dingus 1 points 1 month ago

I don't get discomfort from excitement so I'm not sure what you mean. I've spoken to quite a few therapists at this point. None of them seem to be able to have anything worthwhile to say. ChatGPT would probably have more substance to say in response to things.

[–] dingus 1 points 1 month ago (2 children)

What do you mean exactly?

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