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There is always nuance in everything. Didn't mean to imply that there wasn't. Actually, my mom was a cheater. But she cheated on her abusive husband that she was afraid to leave. So I didn't consider it to be immoral. In fact, I was amused when I found out.

In a majority of cheating cases, that's not how it all plays out. So a majority of times cheating is incredibly immoral and hurtful to the other person. Occasionally it isn't, but that isn't the majority of cases.

There are so many heinous people do because of their primal sexual drives that everything just seems so bizarre to me. I have never had the ability to experience such desires that are supposed to be instincts that everyone does. So it's really odd as an outsider to see what sex does to people.

1. Causes them to cheat on others. Why? Why harm people instead of breaking up like you said.

2. Causes them to r**e others. Why? Why can't you just masturbate? Why do you have to harm others to get this?

3. Causes them to murder others out of jealousy. Why?

As an alien, I only see the downsides to sex. It's honestly saddening how common these are.

I'm with you there. I've only tried it a few times tbh and I'm 30. Didn't understand it. It was simply wet, awkward, and unpleasant and I didn't understand what I was supposed to be doing anyway.

Conceptually, I understand why people want and desire sex. For most people, it's a basic human instinct that exists because of a species's drive to further its own existence. But kissing? You're at the wrong end there. I don't get the appeal.

Agreed. And in the same vein...people who are unkind to others for no discernible reason. I've heard people give the excuse that they were just "stressed out" or "XYZ unrelated thing happened so I was upset".

Almost never in my entire life have I ever understood putting down innocent people because something was going on in my life. It's the absolute lowest form of the low to me. But people taking their anger out on innocent people is so fucking common that it's so fucking frustrating.

Sounds pretty productive! Good on you! Sucks about the cold tho.

Glad the kids had fun too!

A party within walking distance sounds pretty chill! One of the reasons I can't relax at parties is because I can't have much of anything to drink because I have to worry about driving!

Yeah new years was never a holiday for me. At my old workplace, we were open 24/7/365, so I was always happy to work on new years because of the holiday pay haha. It seems more like a thing if you go out and party. Nothing wrong with that! Just never something I did!

That actually sounds like a lovely evening even though you were sick.

I tried to go to bed early after having a rough couple of work days but I couldn't fall asleep for several hours which was a tad annoying. My coworker/friend still seems to like me and enjoy my company even though I occasionally go off the rails which is just endlessly confusing to me. I never know how to make up for being a crazy person. So we were texting a bit before I went to bed.

Thank you, same to you as well!

But yeah I do want to stress that this was just my personal experience. Other people who identify as asexual may have radically different experiences.

Wow this was me attempting to go to a work party several weeks back lol. Idk why social interaction has to be so stressful!!

I've never "stopped" getting horny because I never started to begin with. Like I said, it was confusing growing up. As a teen, my peers would experience that sort of thing and talk about stuff like that and I couldn't relate. I know that if you experience a sudden decrease/lack of libido even though you once experienced it, it is often a symptom of depression. But that's not how it worked in my case. That's just how I've always been. And still others assumed I was just a "late bloomer". Again no. Early on I suppose one could postulate that but I'm now 30 lol. My body went through the normal changes of puberty at a normal age too so everything seems to be fine in that department!

I wouldn't know what intense sexual desire feels like, so I don't know how I would be able to compare said desire to anything else like you describe. I will say I have absolutely never been a passionate person about anything. So it's interesting to me when I stumble across someone who describes their passion for their career or a particular hobby or etc. I have not ever really experienced that. I have likes and dislikes, but not so much passions.

I am more than capable of experiencing other types of emotions tho...happiness and sadness are ones that I have the ability to feel very strongly depending on the scenario. Moreso than others to the point where it gets me in trouble sometimes honestly.