bluebadoo

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[–] bluebadoo 14 points 1 year ago

I second this view. If the interviewer maintains a critical approach to their analysis of the interviewees responses, I see no reason to discontinue watching. However, having a guest who is consistently an unreliable source of information and taking their views at face value screams red flags to me.

Kind of like assessing a new relationship, if your prospective partner becomes someone completely different around friends with opposing views, run. They aren’t an objective source, they are a mirror with a megaphone.

[–] bluebadoo 3 points 1 year ago

Fit matters. Sizing is about length but fit is in the design. If you shop at Walmart or Winners (which are perfectly valid options), you won’t get the same fitting styles that you can find at an explicitly men’s clothing store. Additionally, some booties just don’t “fit” the fit styles.

I second the other comment, comfort matters, both physically and mentally.

[–] bluebadoo 2 points 1 year ago

“Numbers falling more slowly than thought.”

Only Vulnerable to Extinction people, nothing to worry about /s

[–] bluebadoo 3 points 1 year ago
[–] bluebadoo 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pro tip: everyone is they/them until otherwise stated. It sounds counterintuitive until you look at the example of the unknown stranger. You see a jacket left on the back of the a chair, and wonder if the stranger will return. You ask a person nearby, “Do you know who this belongs to? When are they coming back?”

English has always used neutral pronouns for someone unknown to you. We constantly make assumptions about gender based on appearance, and cis people take for granted that our outward appearance matches their gender. My best take on being an ally and inclusive is to default to gender neutral pronouns until someone states it or corrects you.

[–] bluebadoo 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

From some research online, pain experiences are variable and there is no singular approach to IUD insertion. There are some shortcomings in the first study as it doesn’t show pain levels in the days after, but it does a better job of quantifying that most women feel less pain than they expect to receive. Sedation should be available to those who need it, and I think our definitions of what constitutes as inhumane are different and I’m okay with that.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5683140/

https://www.cbc.ca/radio/whitecoat/iud-pain-birth-control-1.6480281

[–] bluebadoo 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Those statistics are really meaningful. Would you mind linking your source for some further research?

[–] bluebadoo 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

The point of offering my perspective is to highlight that even though some places in Canada may offer sedation with insertion or removal, it is not ubiquitous or necessarily free. Many clinics charge extreme prices for what is considered “optional” services like anasthetics in cases where it is not considered medically necessary.

I am not arguing that women’s pain isn’t taken seriously. Nor am I saying that my procedures were painless and pleasant. I’ve spent over 7 years trying to get proper clinical diagnosis of a chronic pain condition and I am well acquainted with medical downplay of symptoms.

Perhaps I can better articulate that while the services are available here, they are often inaccessible to most women, and thus, not something to speak highly of or as an ideal standard of care. Our medical system routinely fails women, people of colour, non-binary people’s and those of minority groups while those with affluence can get better standards of care easily.

[–] bluebadoo 6 points 1 year ago

I find that really disenheartening, and I’m sorry American people have to go through that. I’m not certain if sedation is available to those who ask for it in most clinics, but I’m glad your friend found a clinic who could help them.

[–] bluebadoo 34 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

You can get numbed and sedated? I’ve had two IUD inserted in Canada with no option of numbing or sedation. I understand why some might want it, but it’s not standard practice here, nor would I consider it inhumane to perform it without.

[–] bluebadoo 26 points 1 year ago (7 children)

My partner programmed me a birthday card, so the programming flirt is real.

[–] bluebadoo 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

There will be a time when manipulative charisma will feel strangely like love and home. Don’t listen, learn what real love feels like.

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