Zaros

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[–] Zaros 14 points 1 year ago

At first glance I thought that chip was covered in small bugs.

[–] Zaros 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm kinda hoping the muggers will end up going on a killing spree when Konsi is busy elsewhere. Nothing like being partially responsible for deaths of innocents to make one reconsider what really is the right thing to do. >:)

[–] Zaros -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

True honesty often comes across as rude. If someone asks me what I think of their new carpet and I think it looks like shit, I'll tell them just that. Saying "I don't like that carpet" would feel dishonest as it's only limited honesty. (being honest about the opinion or thought, but not about its intensity)

[–] Zaros 3 points 1 year ago

Wait... I'm supposed to follow instructions?

[–] Zaros 34 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This kinda happened to me once when she noticed my browser doesn't save history. I then spent the rest of the evening showing her how to do that on her browser as well as going through all the other browser settings, some extensions and themes (she picked one with purple and pink flowers).

[–] Zaros 5 points 1 year ago

Viva La Dirt League. A youtube channel that this clip is from. They have a ton of hilarious videos (a lot of them about gaming) and I very much recommend checking them out if you haven't.

[–] Zaros 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Combining two of my favorite things: VLDL and gw2? Perfection.

[–] Zaros 14 points 1 year ago

Oops, I almost missed the meme just looking at the picture.

[–] Zaros 1 points 1 year ago

Why does anyone need any temperature? I find it most comfortable! I've also noticed sleep is a lot better when the air is a bit cooler. Anything above 18°C just makes me feel uncomfortably warm.

[–] Zaros 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I like to keep my home at 16°C (60.8°F) when possible. Summers are hell.

[–] Zaros 26 points 1 year ago

"There are some who call me... Tim."

[–] Zaros 2 points 1 year ago

Reading through the responses you've got so far has been quite interesting. Plenty of good advice, and some I don't agree with. I'd also point out that gender does factor in, since kids usually form their groups around gender and those groups seem to operate under different sets of rules. Everything I say is from my experience with the male dominant groups, as well as assuming we aren't talking about bullying that includes physical violence.

I'd advice not to throw a tantrum or completely ignore them either. Former is exactly what bullies want, and latter allows them to run the show. I saw someone advice a surprising reaction, and I agree with that approach, as it messes their script. But it has to be surprising in a way that doesn't imply they got to you. One could try laughing with them or agreeing with something negative they said about you and compliment them in turn (when it can be done truthfully). Claiming that they are boring you also sounds like an interesting method, but I haven't tested that one myself.

I've personally also found being curious to be an effective tactic, especially around your age when the kids in general start to question things. For me curiously asking about their motivations for their behavior ("Why do you think you feel the need to bully others?") and such often resulted in them either starting to question their behavior themselves, or avoiding me to avoid the questions. I suppose they didn't like being treated like a curiosity or a strange research subject very appealing either. One could also use insecurities of the bullies in one's advantage with this method, as those are usually easy enough to figure out... but that could backfire should one be too confrontational.

Something I'd caution against is direct confrontation, but it can sometimes work if you're sure you can win that exchange and the ones that will follow. If not, it might just make the situation worse as a win like that is a gourmet meal to bullies and they'll want more.

Unfortunately, the things you or any outsiders like teachers (if they bother to try) can do to stop bullying is quite limited, and very much dependent on your exact situation. Most effective method by far seems to be the group in which the bullies are in (or one they respect) to turn against them, disapproving their behavior or starting to exclude them when they do bully. That probably won't help you right now, but keep that in mind if you end up part of a group where someone tries to elevate themselves by bullying. Then you might get a chance to save someone else from being bullied.

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