WeeSheep

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[–] WeeSheep 7 points 7 months ago

Some people are saying lack of compliments as a child, some are saying neglect.

I personally feel similarly much of the time. My parents would compliment me or tell me they are proud but usually just my mother and usually after my sibling did something and we are talking about how proud my mom is of them, like she forgot about me and "oh yeah I'm proud of you too, you do stuff too probably. You weirdo."

My dad was emotionally detached and made jokes I could never get because I was a kid without the background knowledge to understand what the joke was. I'm not my mom's favorite and that was always pretty clear. As I've grown up I've realized my mom's favorite might be herself first, as she often makes many things about her, or changes topics to be about her.

I'm so accustomed to hearing things I can do better that those seem more comfortable to me. I know what to focus on and how I can try and improve. Or, someone just doesn't like me or wants to complain and there isn't anything I can do, I'm just there in their way of existing.

Generally with compliments I'll say "thanks" or "thank you" but I'm more comfortable with critical feedback I can use to better myself in some way.

I don't know your background, I can't say why you feel the way you do. But you aren't alone in feeling that way, 'normal' or not. If it causes you anxiety or other discomfort for extended periods of time I would suggest trying to work that out with someone, even just a diary if possible to get your thoughts down.

[–] WeeSheep 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

I never have used detergent for colored clothes.

Apparently not specific enough: I use clothes detergent for all my clothes, but not detergent for colored clothes, I use regular clothes detergent for all my clothes

[–] WeeSheep 6 points 7 months ago

Not sure if you noticed women's pants are significantly tighter and more form fitting than men's. They also tend to be thinner and stretchier to accommodate, and therefore usually wear out faster and are not as good in cold weather.

[–] WeeSheep 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That sounds awful. All of it. I hope your work hours are reduced to reasonable at some point soon, and I hope you don't need to worry about money when that time comes.

[–] WeeSheep 3 points 7 months ago

Pretty sure throughout history most (if not all) generations have worked to give their kids a better (if not approximately equal) quality of life to their own. That isn't feasible for many people, and older generations are frustrated that it wasn't/isn't feasible for many who are currently young adults. That, along with the ability to control if you have kids, makes the choice for many of us. Why would you choose to have kids if their lives are worse than your own and you don't enjoy your own?

[–] WeeSheep 2 points 7 months ago

Many people are voting red because they think it will be better for their personal finances, with promises of lower taxes. They don't look at the benefits: that use to outweigh the cost, which we've mostly lost Even though we still pay high taxes and high cost of living for things that are now for (higher) profit (healthcare, school, etc.). It's not wrong to try and look at your bottom line, it's just a short-sighted bottom line.

At least this is the conversation I have with people who consider themselves moderates who lean right and tend to vote Republican.

[–] WeeSheep 3 points 7 months ago (3 children)

You can be generous with your time and empathy and people will tend to remember it more than money. It's easy to be generous with money when you have it. It's not as common to be generous with kindness.

I don't know your work situation to know if you have time to spare (when others are available) but I hope you have time to at least enjoy your own life. Also, not getting married due to red flags is a good reason to not get married. It sucks to not find your a person for yourself but it's honestly better than dreading going home.

[–] WeeSheep 18 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Generally if women wear something, men will avoid it to not appear affeminate. Increasingly so throughout history as fashion is incorporated into gender roles.

[–] WeeSheep 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Adding fruit is considered adding sugar? Adding whole grain would also have some amount of sugar, so that would be considered adding sugar too.

[–] WeeSheep 6 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Many other products do that too, mostly candy, with apple and grape juices.

[–] WeeSheep 21 points 7 months ago (2 children)

It's totally unfair to judge humanity on just one pandemic when people refuse to wear masks and quarantine. We should also look at the 1918 pandemic.

[–] WeeSheep 6 points 8 months ago

I want a new DM.

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