RBWells

How do you know you have this? I got so much benefit from Nicotinamide Riboside, and after years of low vitamin D levels finally found one supplement that raised them, VeganD3+K2 - I'm not vegan but that is the one that has worked. Not sun (I get plenty of that) nor fish nor any other supplement ever got it out of the alleged critically low range.

I have never used margarine, even when it was marketed as healthier than butter, agree on natural fats.

I'm old so have had some time to experiment. Fasting 36 hours each week dropped my bad cholesterol a staggering amount while moderately raising the one considered good, and I didn't lose weight, but it decreased my quality of life because fasting is a migraine trigger for me.

Gaining weight to closer to the middle of what's considered healthy for my height has overall made me feel better, which pisses me off because I like the way I look skinny, so I think adequate nutrition is also healthy. Like, while you shouldn't overeat, it's also not great to undereat.

I avoid ultra processed food except for an occasional diet coke, maybe once a month, and flour tortillas because I usually cannot be bothered to make them. Most of what we eat is homemade from ingredients.

The thing I understand about nutrition is that there is a difference between a Therapeutic diet and an everyday nourishing diet. People do extreme diets and it fixes something so they then extrapolate to everyone else and think it's a perfect diet, but when continued or used by someone who doesn't need it, can cause problems itself.

I try to eat a moderate, enjoyable everyday nourishing diet so I don't end up needing a therapeutic diet!

Hover your knee off the ground when you are in the all-fours helps. Like don't put your whole weight on it. Do poses that don't put as much weight on your knees. Look for better ground to practice, grassy areas.

When I yoga outside, it's the last suggestion I use the most. My knees are also sensitive, and finding a flat surface, then using my usual sorta thick yoga mat works well.

Yeah and what anyone thinks is a 32b is probably a 32E or something. Again with the wire circumference! A 32b is like a shot glass not a champagne glass. I can tell any guy I'm an A or B cup because that's what they "look like", and I agree.

I just started thinking of them as numbers all, no letters. So I am wearing 34+4. That's not big, a +4 just means 4" difference underbust to bust, and some of that is lats, not boobs!

Ha ha ha ha, no. We do have savings so at least some cushion but I took years off when my kids were born, got a late start in college, started a career later, I would say I got the time when I needed it I guess. But not likely to have enough to take time off paid work again at the end.

Most people don't get to decide, they get disabled or laid off & cannot find work and are forced into retirement. I'm in good shape and work in an office so probably can keep going as long as jobs last for me, and our life will be better if we keep working.

You are talking to us here, now. I know you do rock climbing and weight lifting. If you have friends, you talk to them too. It's not different from that. You are doing it already. There's not a formula.

What friends can do is tell their friends you are a great guy and introduce you to other people. That's what networking is, the same way you network computers, you network human relationships, by connecting them.

And it is more complicated even than that. I am a small busted woman and yet the best fit I can get is 34D. The 34 makes sense, underbust is 33. The D is what I measure but most have too much room. I still need that size because the circumference of the boobs fits in that wire; any smaller is too narrow.

I think bras need 3 measurements not 2. I need band 34, wire size D, cup capacity closer to C. And there are plenty of women in the opposite situation too, with more projection but smaller circumference.

So the non-standardized sizing is a workaround for that problem.

It's ok to not have an opinion, and also ok to be ambivalent about something.

Your time and attention are not unlimited resources.

I mean, you can't just get fit and expect someone to come knocking on your door. If you are feeling good about your looks now, that's an accomplishment you can be happy about, and should, but it doesn't send out some secret signal that you are ready for a relationship. You have to talk to actual people. You can meet them out in the world or on an app, you can also tell any friends you have that you are looking to start dating, network. I think friends of friends and dating apps are the most usual ways of getting dates now. When I was young we just hung out in groups and some people always people ended up paired off, didn't really date per se, but my kids don't seem to do that as much.

So basically - now you are happy about your physical shape, you still have to reach out to people, that is the next step.

I love licorice too, the Panda one here in the US is very good. It's polarizing, I don't know so many people who like it but they all really like it, and it seems independent from the other flavors they like, some of my least adventurous eaters like it, and some of those with very broad plates don't like it.

My kids work because they want money.

It is hard to find a job, even harder to get by without one; I do have some friends who have never been employed exactly, only hustling, working for themselves, with varying results. It's possible but not probable.

I'm really sorry you are hurting so bad but we can use every sane person, if we give up things just get worse.

Editing to add: Two things can be true at once - the system is designed to funnel money to people who don't need it and keep most of us struggling. It's baked in, yes. But it's also true that your own life is yours to live, and your own actions and thoughts what you have the most control of, and that you can make changes that improve your life.

No, no, and yes.