DillyDaily

I'm a two finger typer, I did have formal typing lessons in school but I never learned to touch type, my teachers used wpm and accuracy to determine if we were on track and passing, and my two finger method was working for me in those metrics.

I'm missing a knuckle and have bradydactyly, so my teachers sort of gave up when I asked for extra advice in learning to touch type, and I had no motivation to learn because everyone just had this attitude of "oh they're disabled so they have to type weird, don't bother teaching them the right way". But I probably am fully capable of learning to touch type if I tried.

I'm not sure what my method would officially be called. It's similar to hunt and peck because I'm only using my index fingers, but I'm not looking at the keyboard when I type, so there's no real hunting.

Though if I have to borrow someone else's computer I do need to hunt and peck for a few hundred words until I get a feel for that specific keyboard.

My handwriting is also shocking, and that I do blame on my hand deformities and disabilities. I'm dyslexic and dyspraxic and was diagnosed late in life so never had any support with handwriting growing up. My journals look like a serial killer because each entry starts of nice and tidy, with even spacing and kerning and text in line, then as it goes on the spacing gets uneven, lines get slanted, I'll use 3 totally different fonts in the same word, like writing "anɴɑ" instead of "anna", oh and naturally I write the "n" first then have to go backwards and fit that first "a" in. It happens because my cognitive ability to write fatigues so fast but my motivation to keep writing and writing fast never wanes so I just power through it and my handwriting suffers, and then my hand spasms because even with an adaptive pen grip, I still have functional issues in my hand.

But I love typing and I love writing by hand even if I'm not good at either, and I think that's the important thing - not giving up on one method entirely.

He was a good boy. He still is, but he was one, too.

There's something in the air today, my brain is rotting from boredom but I can't tear myself off the couch to do any one of the 200 things I should be doing, including some reports for work.

I also can't seem to find the motivation or even focus to play a video game, or get out the sewing machine (my favourite hobby).

I've been doom scrolling for 3 hours. Even though I know it's making me feel worse, and it would take me 2 minutes to put a yoga video on and grab my mat, and I would feel better...

But apparently my brain just wants to sit here feeling guilty over all the things I should be doing but aren't.

Its my day off so I've half convinced myself it's okay to still be in my pyjamas at almost 4pm, and do nothing today, not even cook....but I'm not enjoying it, it's not relaxing. I'm paralysed by the complete lack of motivation, and self imposed shame over doing nothing.

Im going to blame my ovaries for this unfocused, unmotivated mood.

Oooh, I'm not sure if it's available in Canada, I'm in Australia. This is what it looks like

if you do find it.

I'm glad I looked it up just now because it's "on sale" so I might go stock up 😂

It says "for women" but the scent is just musky and coconuty so it's unisex as far as I'm concerned.

I genuinely thought I was NT because I was comparing my quantity of interests to my brothers quantity of interests. He's autistic, he has one interest.

Then I'd compare my quantity of interests to my best friends quantity of interests, he has ADHD hyperactive type, he has 700+ interests.

And I have like, 25 (and that's if I split up larger interests into subcategories)

So I'm normal...except for all the sensory issues, executive dysfunction, impulsively, social difficulties, memory issues, communication deficits, learning difficulties, inability to establish routines, poor interoception resulting in medical complications from failing to attend to basic needs because I'm "in the zone" on something else.

Jokes on me, I have AuDHD.

Some of my "symptoms" cancel each other out in a way I'm very grateful for, and others conflict with each other in the most debilitating ways. That feeling when you are somehow catastrophically overstimulated and also your brain is tearing itself down the middle in desperate need for some dopamine through sensory input...

Right! My first thought was that this character (I know nothing about this game/franchise) is hot as hell.

Nobody is ever going to be everyone's type, so who cares if she's not "hot" to these gamerbros. The writers, artists and devs are focused on making a good character and a good game. It's not like this is a dating sim designed to provide fan service to a wide audience, I'm guessing based on the genre, this character is not there to turn you on, so who cares if she doesn't.

If you can't stand to play a game without a character you find hot in it, That's what cosmetic mods are for.

Let the rest of us have our sexy soft butch women, and our realistic examples of what women look like.

I love the bamboo Mitchum, it smells so good and I've been lucky that it hasn't stained anything.

But it's $8 here, and it's also sold barely half filled, and it doesn't stretch very far. I ask for it for my birthday because it feels luxurious to me. But the rest of the year, I use the crystal deodorant and a drop of tea tree oil.

The crystal stuff helps me to sweat less, but it did very little for the odour (which is surprising because it's the opposite of what it claims to do)

My routine now is to use the crystal, then put a drop of diluted (skin safe) tea tree oil on a cloth and rub that on my pits.

At first the tea tree oil was just to disguises the odour, but after a few weeks even if I forgot the tea tree one day the odour was much improved. My theory is that the antimicrobial properties of tea tree combined with the crystal have worked together to prevent the bacteria and yeasts that make odour worse.

I like the crystal because I have circulation issues and it causes hyperhidrosis in my peripheries, so I've been able to use it on my hands and feet too. I don't want my hands to smell like deodorant but I do want them to be less wet. It doesn't help the numbness, coldness and blue skin, but it's less embarrassing to just have zombie hands than to have soggy zombie hands.

Again, it depends on the purpose of the group you're creating, does this person in question face discrimination for their perceived race? Then a support group for people who have faced discrimination for their race may be the right place for them, assuming the intersection of having "chosen" to present as a race they're not doesn't create an unsafe space for the other group participants.

However if your group is for people who have grown up POC or been raised in a non-dominant cultural group to discuss shared experiences, then obviously someone who identifies as POC later in life would not be served by that group, so would not be eligibile to join that group.

There are circumstances when even if you fit the criteria of the group, you may still be excluded due to the way various identities and experiences intersect, or because your personal actions are not serving the group.

It's not discrimination to be told you can't use a private service because the service can't serve your specific needs, and your personal circumstances reduce the groups ability to serve its other members.

I'm not trying to be rude, I'm trying to understand.

As far as the language is concerned, I'm just trying to understand how a trans woman could be a cis lesbian, when my understanding is that being cis and being trans are mutually exclusive.

Am I missing something?

If you're a private entity and there is a specific reason that having non-black people in the group would be detrimental to the purpose of the group, yes, in Australia you can make a black only space.

For example, if you want to create a support group for POC to discuss trauma around being subjected to racism, to ensure you create a safe space, making the space POC only is not only legal, but often the more ethical choice for this group.

Want to create a social and dating app for queer women to meet other queer women? What purpose would it serve to let straight people into that group?

There is difference between public spaces, that must allow access and entry to all, and a private organisation that caters to specific demographics, and being freely open would completely defeat the purpose of the private organisations goals.

I'm not an alcoholic, I don't personally know anyone who has struggled with alcoholism. Why can't I go to an AA meeting to talk about my feelings on alcoholism? Obviously, Because that's not helpful, it has the potential to be harmful to the people who attend because they have lived experiences with alcoholism. I could argue I'm being discriminated against because of my medical history, but I'm not being discriminated against, I'm just not being catered to, because I don't have an unmet need in this specific situation.

How does that even work?

I mean, to be a cis lesbian also implies being a cis woman....