Oh, phrenology's been back for a while. Or at the very least, these idiots have been taking tape measures to bones because of bigoted nonsense. Phrenology in the historical sense might actually be too complex for them.
Incel communities have long been touting the existence of a dating appeal hierarchy based on "canthal tilt" and "hunter eyes." They believe that you're born more or less likely to pick up "Stacies" based on the subtle shape of your eyebrows and chin. Meanwhile, "transvestigators" take the "we can always tell" insistence of transphobes to such insane depths that they think they can tell from photographs and video that every person they see on TV is transgender and secretly part of a literal satanic cult because of minute observations that they think they're making about celebrity bone structure. Oh, yeah, and it's a huge staple of transphobia just in general. "Transvestigators" have just raised it to what they think is an art form, but is really just raw, concentrated delusion.
Never underestimate the depths of pseudoscience to which people will stoop in order to create out-groups. You will always be disappointed.
Sometimes I hate being on the autistic spectrum, because I KNOW I'd end up making the same scene that this guy did and launch into the exact same petty argument. Well. . .probably. I'm a woman in my case, so I might just be stuck baking the cake myself and never have it come up. It's not that, to use this guy's situation as an example, vanilla is bad, it's that once something is decided, it gets baked (heh) into my head, so any deviation from what was explicitly established throws me off hard enough that I start feeling way less logical and appreciative than I would otherwise and acting like a child.
Granted, the response from the woman (and the response neurotypicals tend to give to pushback over minor situations in general) confuses me anyway. It's. . .cake? It's not that serious? Since I'm also PICKY, I also very much get having to quickly cover my blunt comments with "I'm not saying this because of anything wrong with your cooking, I swear, the dish was cooked well and looked great, I'm just super finicky and dislike (insert ingredient here)." Which. . .apparently wasn't enough in this case? Like, it's not personal. It's REALLY not personal. If I say I'm not in the mood for vanilla today, it means I'm just not in the mood for vanilla today. I assume it's the same for this guy. No one is trying to "embarrass you in front of your kids." How does that reflect on you? You're not the one eating around a line of vanilla and complaining about home cooking made with love. THAT'S embarrassing. When I eat around stuff, I KNOW I look like a clown and just hope no one cares. Then she tried to intimidate him by threatening to stop doing something nice for him and he. . .gave an admittedly pretty rude but also perfectly fair response in the heat of the moment? Like, he DID overreact, and it's weird he didn't notice in retrospect, but HUMANS overreact just by nature, and the response to this both privately and publicly is enough to make me live in existential terror because holy crap, THIS is all it takes to be a pariah?
Is all this drawing battle lines in the sand between neurotypical and neurodivergent people? Finicky people and people who just scoop up anything on their plate? Both? Considering all the women responding to the question, is it partially because he's a guy and there's some kind of subtext of assumed misogyny, so to a degree I DON'T have to worry about this? Or is there something else here I'm missing?
EDIT All of which is to say, his behavior was still BAD, and frankly I think he lacks a shocking amount of self awareness, I just GET it. Frankly, I SUPER agree with some of the other comments here that say the core issue here is a communication issue. Neither of these people know how to explain their side, so it's just. . .two people getting progressively angrier at each other and it turning into a mess.
I'm in camp "Midwestern American who says tuna fish". . .but I'm also right there with the person that said they don't order them and tuna fish sandwiches are something made at home.
For the record, I don't know why the fish part is specified. It just always was. It's not like my family called it a "can of tuna fish" growing up or anything. It's just the sandwiches. Put that tuna between two slices of bread and suddenly the word "fish" gets thrown in there. Maybe it just sounds more fun if you add more syllables? Either that or somebody in the region had to explain that tuna was a kind of fish years and years ago and it just stuck.
Well, Jabba is wide, wrinkly, and tapers off at the end, so,
Croissant
"But that's not a bagel-"
Jabba is also a crime lord, and thus does not care about your laws.
Croissant
I can relate HARD.
I've been working on mine since I upgraded to playing Skyrim on PC a YEAR ago. I had a laptop break on me and switched to a desktop in that time span. Sometimes I make it long enough to even try a quest mod. Forgotten City. Clockwork. Initially I had no clue how to run Dyndolod. Gave up on it. Then I found a tutorial video that explained it and tried again, and it worked. In this time frame SKSE and especially animation mods have worked on the latest version of Skyrim, been broken, and worked again.
At one point I decided to switch to a joke playthrough. I shuffled through a lot of stuff, but when I settled on my humor mods, that was the furthest I made it. Did a couple LotD quests and went through like half of The Wheels of Lull. I really liked the writing on that one, although I cheesed some frustrating layouts and bosses in the last part I did with a grappling hook mod and a mod that let me summon a non-offensive swarm of chickens. Keeping those. But before the next stage could trigger, I petered out. I. . .I think I might have gotten fed up with Nazeemic, a mod that spawned Nazeems in the leveled lists, which only got really out of hand at the level I was at? And then I wanted to try The Great City of Winterhold, but OH, NO! A couple of my joke mods were incompatible, and no one made patches! So I went back to planning for serious roleplay. Partially. And since I felt all of the LotD and Lull quests started too early, I downloaded a patch for LotD and kicked Lull's quest start levels up massively in xEdit. Did the same thing for The Forgotten City and Clockwork, too. Hopefully that doesn't break anything!
And of course the graphics and overhaul mods. Initially resisted on most of them. But the switch from laptop to desktop made me curious just how much of a power upgrade it was. I installed one or two at first. Happy Little Trees was one I really wanted. Dyndolod for it wasn't working for me for months and I gave up on that too, but I very recently discovered it was some really stupid user error. Fixed it. I also installed a couple of The Great Towns because they expanded content. Shor's Stone. Karthwasten. But after seeing The Great City of Winterhold, it became an addiction. Endless mesh, texture, and town replacers ensued, and are ensuing. My PC storage is starting to creak.
Enhanced Solitude in particular was a real head-scratcher. When I tried it on my laptop, it was broken in all sorts of ways. It added a replacement torch mesh without a texture. Entering the bathhouse crashed my game. And of course, the reported lag was true for me as well. But after seeing The Great City of Winterhold, I cautiously decided to try again resolving to investigate further since I'd learned to better read crash logs, and despite it being the exact same file. . .none of these things happened? My laptop was just weak enough that it somehow caused all kinds of chaos. I still made a personal patch deleting some of the extra NPCs, though, just in case. And a couple decor items I subjectively didn't find aesthetically pleasing. And I'm thinking of making another at some point to add Sweets and Such items to the bakers, or at least the baker on the street since his inventory is sad. Considering the perms, maybe I could even upload them if I feel satisfied enough.
I remember drawing on top of a meme in anticipation of Xelzaz 1.7. I'm now planning to tell myself "OK, NOW I'm done for sure" when Xelzaz 1.10 comes out.
It's always something.
. . .
Haven't seen a yak shaving mod, but there is a cow tipping one, BTW.
Yes I have it installed.
He doxxed himself. Honestly, not the brightest move. Somehow it took until everyone on the internet turned on him for him to realize that wasn't a good idea. Wasn't just his real name, either, I just realized that his mod also made a point of sharing another piece of information that would allow people to find him exactly. And to a dangerous degree, too, considering he was using the mod to memorialize a trans woman who passed away.
Honestly I just kind of ignore the part where he's arguing that, he's trying to clean up his online footprint that he objectively screwed up because he already had his open personal info used against him and now he's freaked out. Which I don't hold against him really, mistakes are mistakes and being in this kind of situation would cloud anyone's head from stress. It was just. . .also another mistake to assume malice when a lot of people were unaware. Even considering the, uh. Tension involved.
. . .TBH, the word "doxx" has been tossed around like a ragdoll this whole time and I don't think anyone's used it accurately once.
Hopefully some lessons are at least learned from all this.
Apparently there was even more to it than that. The audio files that were provided in that thread appear to have been maliciously edited. Since you were the one who shared the initial Reddit post with everyone and your post here has received the most engagement on the matter, I figure that posting the update that has been posted to provide a fuller picture once again would be a reasonable idea.
Admittedly my posting the link three different times is a bit heavy handed, but this thread is starting to get old and I figured that the people who were involved in discussing the Reddit side of the drama initially might appreciate being given an update on the situation.
Seems like there was actually an update to this situation. Since you personally seem to have been the most incensed at the mod author, I figured sharing the update directly to your post here would be important as well. If nothing else for clarity. https://www.reddit.com/r/skyrimmods/comments/14qwcap/regarding_recent_allegations_about_me_and_my_mod/
Seems like we were all taken for a ride??