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That was... something. And I'd bet that Dan is on lemmy.

I did. But I never fantasised about actual incest, and certainly not with my family members. But fantasy incest in porn? Defo works for me.

I think lots of people are very capable of finding stuff hot as a fantasy while having zero interest in the reality. In fact, that's part of the appeal. If I'm just watching hot people have sex, it just kinda makes me sad I'm not having sex with them. But if I'm watching a kinky scene or something that is taboo because of the relationship of the characters involved, then I can find it hot without being disappointed it isn't real.

(and while I think there's something to your theory, the popularity of stepmom porn suggests it's not that simple, as most people who watch that probably had a mom)

I wonder if OP's comments are often clarifications or even polite "thanks, I'll try that!" kinda comments. Which are useful and appreciated, but aren't adding a major new response and so less likely to be upvoted.

Also, people often up vote what they consider the "best" response to the question or issue of the post. And usually OP doesn't provide the best response to their own post.

It was an episode of the X-Files for me

Are you talking about the ancient practice of dog sacrifice?

Nazis Prefer Blondes

Defintely, it's a waste of an opportunity. But as someone also living in non-English speaking country, it's surprisingly a lot of effort to make sure I actually expose my self to the language. If you're work and social circles are all predominately English speaking, you need to take active steps to have meaningful exposure (and you most certainly should!)

I think it's different now that in the past, because it's so easy to live in a bubble and spend a lot of time communicating online. Even back in the 'old country' I barely spoke with strangers, beside shop interactions. I have my headphones on, listening to music, watching streaming services, and interacting with my friends and family. Now that I'm abroad, I can do pretty much the same thing, I don't need to watch the local TV channels I can just watch YouTube, I don't desperately need to make local friends, because I videochat and game with my buddies back home very easily.

It's taken a couple of years here to realise that without actively pushing myself, I'm not really picking up much of the language. Now I make myself listen to talk radio in the car, and try to overhear conversations on the train, rather than existing in my normal bubble. It's absolutely worth it, but if I'd been motivated I could have made myself consume shows, radios, etc in the target language back I the 'old country'. And while there's certainly more possible language partners to practice with, if they don't emerge naturally in your social circle, then it's not all that much easier than finding someone back home who wanted to improve their English to be my language buddy.

Tldr it's a waste to not learn the local language, but failing to do so isn't so much "doing something wrong" as "not actively pursuing a challenging but reward interest".

Two years certainly could be enough, but it really depends what the environment. If OP, like many English speakers who live in France for a couple of years, was teaching English, or studying in an English speaking postgraduate course, and then socialising with a mix of people from different places, who all use English as their shared language... It can be pretty easy to miss out on a lot of immersion.

And the level of language to comfortably phone up a hospital, explain a slightly odd request and be bounced around different departments with the administration... I know plenty of native French speakers who would avoid doing that.

I'm actually surprised it's as high as that!

I thought it was places that had circumcision that used the death grip, because of the loss of sensation? (but definitely not an expert!)

I did think that after I commented. Mais non, teaching English Linguistics in France.

Teach at a university