No one cares how old you are as long as don't act like a creep. When I was going to shows and raves early 2k, there were still old heads going with parachute pants and beads. Don't know now after COVID, since I've seen videos without PLUR and becoming more of an influencer show now.
this post was submitted on 13 Nov 2023
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I'll dust off my finest Hawaiian shirt, I may have to go to Goodwill to get my parachute pants back though.
Fuck yeah! Have fun, friend!
Hell, Aioki himself turns 46 this month... I think you're overthinking it.
I don't think you'll have much of an issue. He started getting mainstream success over 10 years ago, and he's in his 40's.
There are always older peeps in rave, festivals, concerts, discos... no one cares, and to be fair, I don't think most people in communitiy would take kindly to ageisim. Enjoy!
Go with confidence my friend
- Have fun, publicly and obviously
- Be clean and dressed not too far out of the norm for the fandom (according to the subculture norms, not familiar with the artist in question)
- Don't approach anyone with any kind of sexual hints, even if ambiguous
- Act like you know others will make fun of you for being a creepy old guy, show you own it
Is everyone a bot in here?! When did he change his name to Aioki???
By the way.,.yes, we're all bots... Go deal with your captchas, human.
Would you prefer that people referred to the guy as the Benihana kid?
Lol a bot would have spelled it right. I'm leaving my mistake, and basking in it.
Lol I was just going to google it
I meanβ¦
Keep you eyes on the show and not the kids?
I saw him at a festival years ago and the crowd was quite mixed, I don't think you'd look out of place at all.
If Band Maid can fill a venue with 40 to 50 year old dudes banging their heads to a group of girls in maid outfits playing rock and roll, you should be fine at a Steve Aioki concert. Just don't act like an actual creep and no one will care.
Just donβt act like an actual creep and no one will care
Never have I heard a more naive statement.
The EDM scene is usually pretty inclusive. If you go there as an older man and just enjoy yourself and dance you'll be fine.
If you leer at women and get handsy you'll have an issue.
Go to better concerts then. I'm a regular concert go-er and at the shows I go to, most people just keep to themselves and concentrate on the show. If you're not acting like a creep and not bothering anyone, nobody will care if you're a 50 year old attending an EDM concert. If people think you're a creep at every concert you attend, then maybe it's a "you" problem.
This sounds a tad vain, however, it would probably depend on how you dress (and act)
hello fellow kids
How the hell would it sound vain to worry about being creepy??
I meant that about what I said. That it's mainly appearance-based
What if I donβt give a shit what kids think of me and I ignore their annoying asses the whole time?
Then go ahead, be my guest! Just answering, y'know, the question of the post mainly.
How should I dress?
You aren't OP and the original comment you replied to was not addressing you. Dress how you want.
The point is fair, if you want to fit in at any event, because you do in fact care, then it helps to dress in a manner that suits the general style of that event.
If you don't care, wear what you want. I'm not sure why you are getting offended by something so trivial that was not directed at you.
It's how human nature works, before you meet sometime, all you can judge them on is their appearance. Are they wearing a filthy beard and rags at a concert? Probably a crazy hobo. Are they past middle age and wearing a mankini? Probably a big borat fan and a bit of a weirdo.
It's not a difficult concept and you don't have to care if you don't want to. It's all good.
The whole point of public comments is so that people can give you shit and everyone else can see how you canβt take a joke.
I thought the point of public comments was to have an interesting discussion with people you don't know, but if you want to make it about giving people shit then all good for you. Trolling is so boring really.
Why do you care what strangers think?
Because if people think you're a pedophile it prolly sucks.
Oh no a stranger Iβll never talk to incorrectly thinks Iβm a pedo. Whatever will I do?
The better question is, why do you care? Why would you let a complete stranger control your life?
It's not as black and white as that all the time. Who's the stranger? What power do they potentially have over you, how could they affect your life negatively or positively, now, or in the future? If you treat them how you wanna be treated, will they do the same to you? Does what you do around others, not caring what they think of you, mean the same thing to you that it does to everyone else around you at any point in time? Maybe one of those people doesn't care like you, and decides that means it's okay to start decapitating children wherever he or she is. Caring about, to a degree, what other people think about you is necessary to life. If you stink because you have an infection, but didn't care that other people thought you stank, then you die of infection, etc. There's levels to it. Strata. Shades of grey. If people around where you live thought you were a pederast, it would make grocery shopping, and everything, more difficult than if they didn't, so it'd behoove you to think they might as well not, if you can help it.
Wat?