Am I the Asshole?

You’re not an asshole per se, because you are treating this news as a professional, future knowledge of her going to need time off. She was telling you this information not from a professional angle, but from a colleague angle of a more personal angle to be excited with her. She thinks of you as a friend and coworker, you think of her as a business associate.

Not the asshole. But you could use more tact. Don’t be fake that’s not what I’m saying. But more than such a short response. I wouldn’t even say congrats! Because for some it might be a horrible situation, and want abortion. I would say.

Alright that’s a major thing in your life, Ill provide support as much as I practically can, and make all work place accommodations I also possibly can for you. Let me know if you need anything. Thanks for communicating this to me.

That is professional but also human and recognizing the seriousness of it, without also being fake excited for you. I’ve been through this exact thing.

Probably would have helped if you had started asking some of those questions then and there.

You're not the asshole, but you're also not the good guy either.

Ok, technically NTA. But-you’re in management. You should know that interpersonal relationships, common courtesy, and socially appropriate interaction are an important part of the environment you create for the entire office. As a manager, “ok” is the answer pertaining specifically to the job. But basic decent manners say you should have said “congratulations” at the very least.

It makes me wonder about what other basic courtesies you are neglecting to display to your employees if “congrats” is a stumper.