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[–] [email protected] 70 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"2 real friends"?

I've been at 0 real friends for so long that even the thought of socializing with anyone stresses me out.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I've got one that I treat like gold. They're a childhood friend that is a divorced alcoholic ex-con that went down the keto->carnivore->jordan-peterson->red-pill->gamer-gate pipeline, so not exactly a quality human. But I like to think I'm doing society a favour by keeping tabs on them.

I wish I had a better best friend, but I'm lucky to have even this one.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly as long as your friend raises you up in life and doesn't drag you down, that's a good friend.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I know they're trying. And I mean I do love them, even with all their faults.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think if you wait long enough he will kinda "grow out of it" if it can describe the process correctly. Just once in a while tell him about his wrong doings if he has them

I mean that's what friends are for right?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah definitely. I've started to see that process already. Kinda reminds me of when I was a more virulent atheist and wanted to debate everyone, and just generally be a nuisance.

[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago

2 real friends? Impressed

[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago (3 children)

God I would kill for 2 real friends

[–] Archer 5 points 1 year ago

Everyone is doing so badly this feels like a humblebrag

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm pretty busy with work and family stuff, but if you're looking for a pen pal I'd give it a shot.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

"Ew no"

Haha just kidding but making a point how most of us are our own worst enemy on this stuff. We want friends but don't make time for them.

[–] samus12345 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Thank you! I knew I stole it from somewhere but didn't have a clue where from.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

lol

We want friends but don’t make time for them.

Definitely. I have lost really solid friends over the years, because I don't put the work in. I'm actually not that great at being a friend to others, which I'm sure isn't super uncommon.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Ooof tell me about it that something I've done and have had done to me. I used to think friends are something you have, then a mentor explained to me that friends are an investment and we need to invest our time and emotions into them alongside that terrible thing...being vulnerable...I hate good advice

[–] robocall 1 points 1 year ago

I will be your friend

[–] girltwink 20 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Real talk, how do you make (non-romantic) friends as an adult? I only have 3 close friends and all 3 of us are fucking 😐

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hobbies is usually one way to talk to people who you may become friends with often.

[–] tdawg 3 points 1 year ago

Too many people don't invest into their interests and finding like-minded individuals. There are communities for everything

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

"Real friends" as an adult means people you see more than once a year outside of work and family, who you can name and know the name of at least one of their kids.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Rule 1: don't fuck your friends.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Be a regular at a theme night at some bars

Maybe check out if there are any hacker spaces near you if you're more into crafting and making things

Get addicted to video games and party up with strangers

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Sounds like a fucking good time, but here is the plan: "when it comes 2 fucking, don't fuck!"

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

What the fuck is the font. Why are all of the lowercase n's slightly base shifted up???

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Aileron black

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Why did you mention it?! Now we can never unsee it!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Why would you do this to me?

[–] _number8_ 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

spot on

what annoys me is that ostensibly there are people out there living the fucking dream, somehow. a fRiEnD gRouP and a house and a partner and a fulfilling job and they work out at 5am every morning and feel great.

~~society must divide~~

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

"I see in the fight club the strongest and smartest men who've ever lived. I see all this potential and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables, slaves with white collars, advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of the history man, no purpose or place, we have no Great war, no Great depression, our great war is a spiritual war, our great depression is our lives, we've been all raised by television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars, but we won't and we're slowly learning that fact. and we're very very pissed off." -Tylor Durden

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I truly don't understand how people have friend groups as adults. It was a pain in the ass to get my 6 friends (two separate groups of 3) together for my birthday with a month notice. One of those friends has a big friend group from high school and now that they're all around 25 they're starting to find out just how little opportunity there is to get 12 people together who all live in different places now, have partners, jobs, some even kids already.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Anxiety, thx I am still learning.
Changed it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What kind you got? My flavour is a feeling out of nowhere like I can't breathe.

It has been a lot better since I stopped drinking, though.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Unstoppable feeling that I have to move and I feel my heart pumping, then my hands and feet can't hold still

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm no doctor but that sounds like fight or flight danger signals to me

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Hey, someone else with the "Run" response! Understand exactly how you feel, though mine likes to spike out with some claustrophobia if it gets really bad.

What I wouldn't give to understand what the fuck is going wrong with the hardware up there, or at least to be able to afford getting help. At this point, I think I'd take being a Lith zombie over whats currently going on.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Got a copy of just the watermark?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

here you go.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

At least I can eat cereal for dinner :')

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

True, best part.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Captain planet really did do us dirty, didn't he?