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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

I'll be having facial feminization surgery on my lower third of my face. Let me know if you have any questions or just want to chat.
Edit: I am now squirrel. πŸ₯œ

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Just want to say good luck with the surgery!

[–] Fetus 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Right now I would want a juicy burger. I haven't been able to eat for the past ~8 hours but it's been 13 or so and my tummy is hangry.

[–] MuhammadJesusGaySex 8 points 1 year ago

I wish you a speedy recovery, and that you’re more beautiful than you ever dreamed you could be.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good luck! The recovery isn't fun, but it's worth it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I'm assuming it'll be worse than my forehead, but fingers crossed. I don't do well with pain and my FFS on my forehead shockingly went above a 2 out of 10 for pain without meds.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Good luck to you! I hope the surgery and recovery go well!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

YAY congratulations!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I will. I took before pictures so if anyone wants to see the changes, they can.
I did the same after my FFS phase 1 onnmy forehead.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Oh I don't have any links, but I have pictures on my phone

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Good luck!!! Its going to go amazingly!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm really late to this post but just recently came out to myself. Interested in ffs but don't really know what it all entails?

How did it go for you and are you happy with the results? What exactly do they do if you don't mind me asking?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So I asked my trans care doctor about ffs and set up an appointment with the surgeon over a year ago, going over what could happen, what to expect, his methodology, etc. The surgeon I saw does it in a 3 phase manner: top, bottom, and then the middle to allow even healing. Made sense to me. This also worked with my life since I had minimal PTO to take and was worried about taking long term breaks from roller derby. The forehead was done first in April of this year. After having a scan of my skull done and a 9-camera photo of my face, they found that a grafting of the sinus cavity did not need to be done and could "grind down" the forehead to achieve the results

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Huh, that's really interesting. I wasn't sure what all they could do. I feel like I have a really square jaw that my beard helped hide. And once I started my acceptance journey, I shaved it off and got really confused because I felt like I looked even more masculine. But I can't handle having a beard anymore so I've been trying to just deal with it. I think I'm getting used to it now that it's been a few weeks and I'm not "moving my face weird" anymore like my wife was saying lol.

Did you get an idea of how you would look after all the surgeries? Like, did they show you an approximation of how you would look?

This is still all new for me, so I know basically nothing at the moment πŸ˜…

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not really(?) The pictures and approximation with pen to demonstrate the contouring gave an idea, but I just had to trust the surgeon and go head first into it. I also had the "dysphoria beard" πŸ˜…

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Glad I'm not the only one with the weird beard issues. At first it made me doubt my self but I also had a beard for almost 10 years. Now that I'm used to it more I don't think it's too bad. Put me in a bit of an in-between state, but I'm getting more comfortable with the journey ❀️

I guess the pen contouring would help a bit in seeing the surgeon's "vision". Hope you're happy with the results so far!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

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