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“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic
(www.buzzfeednews.com)
I do think there is an attack on masculinity that is going unaddressed and this is a huge issue that if that was solved issues like this wouldn't arrise.
If you ever speak about it, it just goes the old "you're a man you have life on easy don't you know how hard it is to be X" or "that's not the way the world is any more you are stuck in the 40's" or " you need to be thinking about X and how men make them feel and you need to do better even though you haven't done anything wrong you're responsible."
Boys and men want some shithousary, they want some aggression and they want to be tough. But they don't get the support in a lot of ways I did even a few years ago.
Guys don't want to be weak and breakdown and cry and talk about their feelings, they want to be part of a group that supports each other and helps each other grow and be tougher. But when guys are wrestling and calling each other cunts or whatever that isn't healthy, they should be asking each other about their emotions and what not. I'm just convinced men aren't built like that and building the world away from the old systems isn't good for men.
They need a group where they can go and relax and shithouse. Things like scouts, full contract sport, boys groups, mens groups in the pub. That does more for my mental health and most guys mental health than any of the stuff being pushed now. What we need to push is society is community and I think men need that more than they need anything else, just look at loneliness levels. Secondly it's probably purpose, being seen as tough and a provider.
That's what men crave and there is such a severe lack of that community that it is taken from twats like Tate because there is no other option.