Expected but pathetic
I wouldn't put it past them, but is there, like, any concrete proof of that anywhere?
Yah. I'm wondering what exactly is shadowbanning in this context? And how do they know.
Originally, shadow banning was a way to deal with bots; you give them a view of the site which looks like their spam is there but nobody else sees it. Obviously this is a great way to silence users as well.
My comment only shows up on my account. Its deleted if not logged in as me. I also can no longer comment
Just the fact that they are using something like shadowbanning says a lot about reddit.
Honestly regardless of the context, shadowbanning or even just your post/comment showing up for you but nobody else is one of the biggest gripes I have about Reddit. If it's not approved, it shouldn't show up. You shouldn't have to literally log in on a different account or incognito mode just to see if your post actually went through.
You'd be surprised at how often it happens to singular comments too (not a full shadow ban). Put your username into a site like Reveddit and you'll see which of your comments were deleted without notice by mods or admins. You'd never even know it unless you check with the way you described or using a tool like reveddit.
It happened to me...?
Well, my personal opinion is that, instead of mentioning lemmy, you should mention lɘmmy or ləmmy.
Definitely not all of them, I've seen a few mentions.