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So i still have depression and im constantly bored, i feel like a loser who cant do anything right. I want to let my creativeness out, make something i can share with the world or family, but im probably dreaming too big. I cant stand being depressed and bored, it stinks, everyone tells me to work out but i lack the motivation to do so.

i usually just watch youtube all day while complaining to family members that have no idea what to do about me.

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[–] renrenPDX 3 points 1 year ago

Right now I’m trying chess. I absolutely suck at it, but I can play it on demand at any time online and getting better at it. Don’t really play against live opponents often, but rather play bots or solve puzzles mostly. It helps get the mind to think about something else and makes me want to learn due to how bad I was initially. Still bad, just less so.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Sports outdoors with other people

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Honestly winemaking and brewing are great for depression. Can't find the willpower to take care of it for two weeks? That's fine! It's just aging, you can do the next step whenever you feel like it. And then you get to share and everyone is pressured to say nice things, it's great.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Whenever I feel this way, which is often, I tinker with my homelab or play music. Oftentimes I don't feel to motivation to, but I know once I start I'll get sucked right in.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Dancing. There were dark times in my life where the dance practice was the highlight of the week. You get to know people too and when you choose a style of music you like it's almost impossible to feel bad. I know of people I met there who need it as well to stay positive.

Also it's physical and mental exercise in one. Perfect.

[–] 20watts 3 points 1 year ago

Drawing of course 😁! I think it would help to get your emotions out.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I have started to knit. I usually will watch TV or listen to a podcast and as I become better, I try more complex projects that force me to put more thought in what I'm doing.

I started out not doing anything specific, basically different lengths of squares and rectangles, because I also struggle with motivation to do anything. It was really just so I would have something to do and keep myself busy with. Then I started to include more simple techniques and then motifs and now patterns. If it's something that interests you, I think it's a great way to get distracted and at the end of it, you get a "reward" (being whatever you knit).

I hope you find something that helps you and that eventually you overcome depression.

[–] Dyson 3 points 1 year ago

Meditation.

It's been shown to be a very effective remedy for depression. It's also a useful tool for getting in control of your mind. If you meditate regularly, you'll find more enjoyment in the things you're already doing.

Also, since it's just you and your thoughts, you may discover something you're interested in and find a hobby that way.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Whittling is also a good one, low investment and relatively simple.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

A cat? It forces you to do something useful everyday, which will make you feel good. Maybe a dog is even better, since you'd have to walk it, but a dog is a harsher commitment than a cat. You can't skip a walk with a dog, just because you re having a bad day. A cat however, will be fine for a day of neglect as long as you keep it's bowl full. A cat also enjoys playing outside though, so you could try that as well.

I had a kid, which didn't cure my depression, but it took away all my time. I didn't have time to think about depression anymore, so I kinda forgot about it. Though I wouldn't recommend having a kid for anything besides just wanting to have a kid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Im sorry but im allergic to alot of things such as cats and dogs for some reason, i wish i could get one but i just cant at the moment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm super allergic to cats, but it's absolutely worth it. You just have to remember that the hand you pet the cat with can never be the hand you touch your face with lol

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[–] core 2 points 1 year ago

For me, it was running and reducing alcohol to very moderate levels. I'm at the point now that I crave a run to clear my mind and lower my stress. I rarely ever feel depressed anymore. Total game changer for me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I’ve thrown myself into competitive powerlifting and my bipolar disorder has been stable for like three years. The exercise can be tough but it really levels me out.

[–] a4ng3l 2 points 1 year ago

Fishing. It’s outside, you get to meet interesting persons, there is a collection side in it and you can reach modest goals which is doing a lot of good.

[–] inspxtr 2 points 1 year ago

Turn the passive watching into something a bit active if you can. I like watching TV, and I sometimes try to analyze the data from them. Similarly, if you like watching youtube videos, maybe examine what it is that excites you about them, if any, analyze and introspect.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm positively surprised that I've not seen gym suggestion within 10 comments.

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