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The Daily Check-in for 4 February 2025 - just for today, we are not drinking!
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I will not be drinking with you today!
this post was submitted on 04 Feb 2025
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day 26! im back baby sorry team forgot about lemmy I only use it for this community. stay strong friends, idk about yous but I cannot do it alone. so lucky with an awesome AA family first try. I really connect with other alcoholics, it's like we speak our own language and want each other to succeed and thrive. so if anyone has whatsapp needs a friend they can count on from australia msg me, or highly recommend checking out an AA meeting, took me a few years but the seed sprouted and it's a really painful but ultimately rewarding experience. somethings different about this go. im actually going to do it one day at a time wish you all the best for your recovery and thanks for being a part of mine
oh and there's 24/7 zoom meetings ive been in for emergencies, https://flying-sober.com/24-7-meetings/ highly recommend checking it out and really taking in what they say, repeat it in your head cause my head gets calm and serene when I listen to people at a meeting.
Day 26, woohoo! 😁
I’ll stay sober with you today!
I usually do the first 111 days of every year sober, but this year was determined to do a year and a half, with a view to stay sober more permanently.
I started early on Dec 1st, and a few friends were a bit weird about it. I ended up drinking on NYE, then at a birthday party two weeks ago, then four days ago to celebrate a new job (which I'm now going to have to turn down, because the finances just aren't there).
I'm finding it a real struggle. Work sucks, and everything seems to be annoying me at the moment. I'm trying to self isolate so I can deal with it, but some of my friends are making me feel so guilty about that that I can't relax when I'm on my own. I can't even manage to do chores, I'm so frazzled, so my apartment is a mess. Just a miserable start to the year! But it'll get better. Never regretted not drinking in hindsight. IWNDWYT!
I found that what really helped me was a long period of uninterrupted sobriety. No "I'll drink at [event]," because that was setting me back to day 1 and undoing all the good work I'd done in being sober for the time before. I've had enough day ones, I don't want another one.
This first month, the only thing that matters is you don't drink. If your friends are being weird about it, that I think says quite a lot about their own drinking habits (maybe don't tell them that though 😉). if you need to stuff the housework and go to bed early, that's what you do. You want to flump in-front of a terrible film with a pizza and a nice non-alcoholic drink? That's what Fridays are for.
Make this month and easy as possible for you in terms of the basics - drinks, food, housework. Make sure you've got nice non-alcoholic drinks in.
There's some good advice in the various pinned posts here. This one is about building up a toolbox of sober supports, about connection and self soothing and self care and changing the channel in your head. There's a booklist and other resources.