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This is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking. It is also a place for non drinkers to discuss and share.

We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down.

Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile.

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The Daily Check-in for 4 February 2025 - just for today, we are not drinking! (self.stopdrinking)

submitted 4 days ago by rosamundi to c/stopdrinking

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Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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[–] rayquetzalcoatl 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

I usually do the first 111 days of every year sober, but this year was determined to do a year and a half, with a view to stay sober more permanently.

I started early on Dec 1st, and a few friends were a bit weird about it. I ended up drinking on NYE, then at a birthday party two weeks ago, then four days ago to celebrate a new job (which I'm now going to have to turn down, because the finances just aren't there).

I'm finding it a real struggle. Work sucks, and everything seems to be annoying me at the moment. I'm trying to self isolate so I can deal with it, but some of my friends are making me feel so guilty about that that I can't relax when I'm on my own. I can't even manage to do chores, I'm so frazzled, so my apartment is a mess. Just a miserable start to the year! But it'll get better. Never regretted not drinking in hindsight. IWNDWYT!

[–] rosamundi 2 points 4 days ago

I found that what really helped me was a long period of uninterrupted sobriety. No "I'll drink at [event]," because that was setting me back to day 1 and undoing all the good work I'd done in being sober for the time before. I've had enough day ones, I don't want another one.

This first month, the only thing that matters is you don't drink. If your friends are being weird about it, that I think says quite a lot about their own drinking habits (maybe don't tell them that though 😉). if you need to stuff the housework and go to bed early, that's what you do. You want to flump in-front of a terrible film with a pizza and a nice non-alcoholic drink? That's what Fridays are for.

Make this month and easy as possible for you in terms of the basics - drinks, food, housework. Make sure you've got nice non-alcoholic drinks in.

There's some good advice in the various pinned posts here. This one is about building up a toolbox of sober supports, about connection and self soothing and self care and changing the channel in your head. There's a booklist and other resources.