I was advised by a group therapist, when having "cold feet" about commitment in a relationship, to just think about how bad the alternative might be. She had a friend who had reservations about getting married, and then thought not getting married would be stressful too, so she went ahead with the marriage. It was terrible advice, especially from a therapist providing guidance for some very troubled people. The only good reason to commit to a relationship is because you really want it, not because you're afraid of what will happen otherwise!
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Maybe not advice but people who condescendingly say “you don’t have to explain yourself” are exactly the people who want you to explain yourself.
Same goes with “I hate drama” folks.
I used to drive a 1999 Nissan Sentra, it looked like a wreck but it got me everywhere I needed to go and was quick and cheap to repair. Everyone told me “you need to get rid of that car.” At the time I wasn’t making tons of money, but I did gain $5K in stocks suddenly during COVID-19.
I searched for “best cars for $5,000” and one of the recommendations was an Audi A3. I didn’t really know shit about cars so I went for it, and boy did I end up spending a lot more than $5K in repairs in the first few years (though luckily I started earning a lot more).
I still love the car to death, but it’s a 10 year old luxury vehicle. I still don’t trust it to get me to the next state but I don’t commute to work so it’s cheaper at this point to keep it and maintain it well rather than buy another used car (with an entirely new set of problems) or take out a huge, huge loan for an updated equivalent (the car is completely optioned out).
I also learned that with German vehicles you must, must find highly a knowledgeable mechanic that you can trust. A few times I took it to cheaper mechanic closer to home but found out 1-2 years later he didn’t actually fix the problems.
Had I simply waited another few years I probably wouldn’t have had to spend a fortune fixing the damn thing, and I’d probably be financially stable enough to actually get a better car. But I live in Los Angeles where the people I know will feel shame on my behalf due to the car I drive. 🙄
A3 TDI? I have one of those and so many breakdowns in the first year. Luckily the warranty they were forced to add from having cheated on emissions covered all repairs. Haven't had any major issues for two years now on it thankfully, I'm not sure I'd recommend it generally but realistically with what you save on fuel cost the extra long term repair cost balances it out a bit.
Those old Datsun Sentras were goat.
A tiny notch under the ek Civic, but just as rugged.
Anything that is founded on karma or divine retribution. That shit is just diffusing accountability.
Got one that happened just now. Bought some frozen pickle chips from Costco. Cooking instructions for air fryer said 96°C for 7-10 minutes from frozen. Completely wrong. Had to do them at 195°C for 15 minutes for them to be even remotely edible.
Chips always lie
I just don't get how it could have been so wrong. The oven instructions were 190°C for 18-25mins.
Pretty much everything I was told about employment when I entered the work force (2005ish). New workers seem to have wised up a bit, seeing us go through the hoops with nothing to show for it, but all the absolute bullshit about hard work paying off, take care of your employer and your employer will take care of you, etc.
...and it's hard to shake off that programming when you hear it your entire childhood from older folks who apparently actually did benefit from that advice.
Hearing Gen Z'ers and such say things like "act your wage" or complain about the rug being pulled out from under them without needing to stand on it for 20 years first is fucking awesome! The younger workers aren't just bending over and taking it in the hopes things will get better someday like we did. Gen Z is going to go down as a major contributor to workers' rights.
The flip side is that workers are getting treated worse.
I hear about people having to go through three or four rounds of job interviews, and having their social media scoured. There are fewer and fewer non-corporate jobs, and forget about a boss who pays you off the books.
Not even going to start on the fact that money is pretty worthless
They're trying to preemptively hire people who don't give them a hard time when they treat them like peasants. When the boss says it's getting harder to hire means the rest of us are harder to fire. Keep up the pressure!
Anecdote
Boss says he called twenty people in for an interview at 7 am. Hired the one person who stayed until 9 pm because they showed persistence.
People in comments said he hire the person who was most desperate.
When you start investing, just put your money in and just don’t worry about it. It’ll grow. Just keep adding to it. You’ll get there.
Probably some of the dumber advice i’ve received.
You have to look at your Stocks. You have to look at your 401(k). You have to look at your investments.
Unless you like to wake up one day and discover you don’t have enough money. Then go ahead and follow that advice of just set and forget it.
The only one that might make sense with is if you’re putting your money into the S&P.
Even then, I still would pay attention to what it’s doing.
To be fair that advice does work for Index Funds which are low risk and meant to be gathering interest over many many years. For stock trading yeah, you have to be on top of things
No pain, no gain.
Got rhabdomyolysis from working out too hard, that saying is crap.
I'm sorry this happened to you! Yes, I think workouts need not be painful. It's best to ease into it and ramp up according to what's comfortable until you hit your goal, rather than trying to make drastic changes real fast. It would be good if more people were aware of this. I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way!
Thanks
Looked it up and it sounds horrendous. Thank you for new knowledge and good luck with that thing
many items listed at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_common_misconceptions are often presented as advice
Lemmings do not engage in mass suicidal dives off cliffs when migrating. The scenes of lemming suicides in the 1958 Disney documentary film White Wilderness, which popularized this idea, were completely fabricated. The lemmings in the film were actually purchased from Inuit children, transported to the filming location in Canada and repeatedly shoved off a nearby cliff by the filmmakers to create the illusion of a mass suicide.[448][449] The misconception itself is much older, dating back to at least the late 19th century, though its exact origins are uncertain.[450][448]
Hmm, humanity sure has great ideas!
Being told to tip your head back if your nose is bleeding.
How to drown with your own blood. Whomever came up with that one definitely knew and was just pulling a prank or something