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I've been drinking quite a bit since I was 21. I'm now in my mid 40's and COVID really pushed me over the edge - lots of day drinking. I've tried to stop drinking a number of times now, but the most I usually ever made it was a couple days or at most a week. I got to the point where I think I was getting on the edge of DT's when I tried to stop sometimes. I made it a few weeks (not consecutively) this summer. I slipped the week before last and was drinking quite a bit from about 10AM/2PM until I passed out later in the evenings. On Monday (July 24) I thought I'd try to stop again. I quit drinking sometime in the early afternoon. I wasn't feeling too bad when I went to bed, but then I started to feel the dread/doom creeping over me. I spent the night not being able to sleep and feeling like I was going to die until about 2AM when I felt I had to break into my "emergency stash" I had gotten in case this were to happen. I drank 3/4 of bottle of wine by 4AM Tuesday morning and felt I'd see what would happen. I was able to fall asleep for a few hours. I woke up later that morning and worked, did my normal routine for Tuesday. That night I had the same experience, but it wasn't quite as bad. I couldn't sleep and still felt the impending doom, but I managed not to drink any. I held strong on Wednesday, and was actually able to get a good night's sleep (thank goodness!). Now it's Thursday. I was feeling pretty good which of course my brain was telling "just a few drinks tonight won't hurt anything". I was able to ward it off though and I'm looking forward to another good night of sleep tonight! Stay strong friends!

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[–] SpiralSong 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When I quit drinking it was the worst. There are a few things that helped me. If any of them help you at all, I will be glad.

  1. Alcohol is converted to sugar by the body, sleep disruption is a natural consequence of drinking. Especially as you get older.

ii. There are many consequences to drinking. If it helps, write them down as you notice them and make yourself a little contract. Whenever you want to buy booze, make yourself read your personal list of consequences.

C. Don't bring the devil home. It's a lot easier to say no when it's not right in front of you.

IV. There a book called "This naked mind" it's a fantastic read (or audiobook) when your trying to quit drinking. It does a great job of shining a light on the BS of excuses we give ourselves to drink.

[–] Rando 1 points 1 year ago

lol. I love your list enumeration. ;) Good news is no drinking today!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Nice work! I'm proud of you!

Sleep is self-correcting. If you have a few bad nights you're gonna have some good ones. And the good ones can sneak up on you (I feel good, just a night cap, etc). Great job surfing the urges even when things seem more chill.

Keep it up - you got this.

[–] Ubberwubber 6 points 1 year ago

Great job! Sober sleep and waking up feeling normal are worth everything you're going through!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Nothing new to add here, just want to add my voice and also say I'm proud of you and wish you all the best in your journey :)

[–] Spacebar 4 points 1 year ago

If you have insurance, talk to your doctor and be honest about what you are going through. They will not judge you and can help you.

Drinking chronically causes your body to not absorb certain vitamins. Often it is Vitamin D and Vitamin B12. When you quit drinking, you should at least start taking a multi vitamin.

Often, getting on an anti depressant is very helpful. They can take 6 weeks to start working, so keep taking them while you attempt to quit or cut back.

Naltrexone is a drug that often help with the urge to drink. It helped me.

Goodluck and if you need to talk to anyone, people in this community have a lotnof experience in what you are going through.

[–] rosamundi 4 points 1 year ago

Good work! I took progress photos for my first year. Day one, in all my hungover misery, then monthly (ish - I hate having my photo taken or taking my own photo so sometimes I forgot), and I can really see a huge difference.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Great job, well done, just don't drink today.

I would like to highlight that depending on how much you drank, you may need to talk to your GP to talk about tapering. Quitting cold turkey could be dangerous.

Iwndwyt.

[–] Rando 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you all for your kind words! Now I just need to make it through a Friday without drinking.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

We all believe in you! Eat some candy or your favorite snack, or go out and buy your favorite soda, to give yourself something to consume when you feel the urge. My friend who quit 2 years ago drinks coffee incessantly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Sorry I'm a little late. I just joined this community and there aren't too many posts yet. I hope you're still doing well!

That is huge getting the first good night of sleep after you haven't in a while. I can say from personal experience that it was a real struggle to get much sleep at all while I was detoxing from alcohol. Probably around 2 weeks before I started getting some good rest at night. Using alcohol as a sleep aid was one of my many excuses to poison myself throughout my twenties, so when I no longer had it, I also had to figure out how to get to sleep like a normal person. Thankfully, it was simple for me: just keep not drinking and sleep will come easily. Now-a-days I still don't get enough sleep, but its not because I'm up late getting wasted, its because I'm up late playing video games. I've been a night person since I was young though, so it really isn't much different from before I started drinking either.

[–] Rando 1 points 1 year ago

So I messed up on Saturday July 29th and kept drinking most of that week. Friday night Aug 4th was my drink now.