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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/autisticandadhd

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hello

just got my neuropsychological evaluation results:

level 1 asd
turbo adhd
eating disorder (more specifically, pica syndrome)

also a bunch of other things that aren't disorders themselves (neuroticism is the only one i can remember)

honestly, the primary feeling to me coming out of this diagnosis is "it's not my fault i'm a total mess". i thought the asd diagnosis would be more validating, but the fact that i'm in the 99 percentile in a lot of aspects of adhd really validates how i felt about this shit being really hard for me but easy for other people. it really flipped my perspective from "jfc i can't get my shit together" to "holy shit, how am i still alive and able to earn a living while living 1000 miles away from my family??"

i'm not gonna let this justifying not even trying to be better, but it makes me more assured that i am really trying my best, that failures will happen, and that i should be kind to myself and honest about my limitations

also, i bought a dishwasher and my depression has been cured. why wasn't i told about this before?

anyway, hello

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Hello friend!

The more we know about ourselves the stronger we are. If you better understand your difficulties and accept that they require work to accommodate instead of trying to suppress them you'll have a better life.

Knowing about how shitty my memory is has led me to adopt aides (like task lists structured for my brain) and ask friends for help in ways that aren't overly burdensome for them but are extremely empowering for me.

The understanding also really helped me with shame after losing my father - I just don't think of stuff like others do so my grief was minimal during his memorial service and instead pops up when I think of an activity I'd like to share with him.

We're built different (and, IMO, ADHD and ASD are way over broad so even among our community there's a lot of differences). Figure out what the diagnosis means to you and use that understanding to build a better and more stable life.

Oh, and to address one way too common theme... just because you might be excellent or an overachiever in some metrics doesn't deny you the right to ask for help.

When you need it, ask for help. Everyone needs help at some point.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

asking for help is the hard part, exactly because of the other "minor" things that were diagnosed. according to the evaluation, i display some schizoid traits in that i, for instance, have a very hard time opening up to other people, especially when i'm not feeling well, because i feel deeply that i'm bothering them and that they hate me for pestering them. the consequence is that, instead of looking for my friends when i'm feeling down and neglecting them when i'm feeling well, i only get in touch when i'm basically feeling fantastic (e.g. right now). any discomfort makes me immediately isolate myself for comfort

i feel like the formal diagnosis + meds + therapy are going to help me with that, but it also feels like it's always gonna be a struggle

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

🫂

I am so happy for you. Loving yourself and being kind to yourself is so vital and can be very difficult. It still is for me.

I recognize a lot of what you guys here have, but to a lesser degree: apparently my "life difficulty" setting is not set that high. I seem to be extremely lucky to not have eating or sleeping problems at all, which keeps the rest manageable.

I deeply respect all you troopers, wherever you may be, for living life on the hard and extreme difficulty levels.

Hope you find the therapy and/or medication that helps. In the meantime, the dishwasher and the occasional strong coffee (not regularly as that won't work) should help.

Keep on keepin on!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

my old therapist left the clinic i went to and unfortunately i couldn't feel comfortable around the person she assigned to replace her. she sounded really dismissive of my concerns, to the point asking basically "how are you so sure about your adhd?" (to her credit, though, she was the one who pushed me to get through with the neuropsychologic evaluation)

now i'm looking for a new therapist somewhere my insurance will cover

besides that, i am treating the adhd with bupropion, which sounded weird at first, but now that a few months have passed, it's working out amazingly. my psychiatrist is a very competent young man and i'm really enjoying his work so far. i can't wait what else he's going to do with the full diagnosis in hands

i'm feeling really hopeful about myself, just worried about my wife, who also just got the asd diagnosis + moderate depression + anxiety disorder and is not feeling as hopeful about herself as i am

thank you for the kind words

[–] RadicalEagle 4 points 3 weeks ago

Hello! Congrats on the dishwasher and good luck on your quest to become the “you” that you want to be! It’s funny how honesty is essentially a superpower. It doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want, but it’s the thing you can always fall back on and push forward with.