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Mum's in the ED tonight after her fall 6 days ago (well 2 falls in two weeks). I'm super worried. Delayed concussion ABI IV (she only has vision in one eye and now the other is gone) this is not good.
Her life is about to change drastically and it's going to be an awful adjustment for her and I just feel so sad.
i'm not sure how to go about this.
Been through something similar with my Mum a few years back. Did the hospital give you any info on 'confusion', which is a known side effect of such falls?
All one can do is to be there for her, preferably turning up at a regular time of the day as predictability is key. Try to avoid surprising her, or doing a data dump of new information, cos it may not be grasped fully. This isn't the moment to attempt to get her to agree to home help etc. I made that mistake with my Mum, and so did my brother who didn't understand that my Mum couldn't grasp new information at that point. It didn't end well. Also, I suspect your brother & SIL aren't going to be much use. Try to be there at least once a day.
You might like to get her a radio with simple controls - the twist sort - with comfy headphones. If she's got low or no vision then having some means of blotting out the other activity in the ED or hospital room is very helpful. Phone apps rely on vision to operate the controls. Boredom and the ceaseless sounds and activity around her is a nasty mix when she's trying to sleep and a radio helps. My mum also felt better when she had her favorite shawl/throw to wrap herself in as she found the hospital ambient temperature too chilly for comfort.
Clean clothes/laundry, hairdressing etc. will also help her to feel better. The nurses can't do all of this, so you or other rellos will probably have to do this as required. Also familiar food - hospital food varies a great deal depending on the hospital and the time of day. Not all of it is edible imo. If her doctor agrees, then homelike food is good.
I'm so sorry mate. I can't imagine how you're feeling at the moment. I hope everything turns out the best that it can โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
Thank you :)
Gibson in her first week living at my place โค๏ธ
It was an adjustment for both of us. I didn't really know anything about cats, let alone kittens. The day I went and picked her up I bought one of everything at the pet section at kmart lol
The sneak attacks were on a whole other level. She'd jump and stick to my legs with her sharp as fuck little claws ๐
It was a really fun time. Very enjoyable :)
So innocent, so deadly :)
If I had light skin, I could show you the scars lol
She was the reason I got my first tetanus shot ๐
An unsurprising day (mostly) offline. It's been good, but I still make choc chip bikkies at 9:30pm, so probably says a lot about my state of mind. They didn't even turn out that good. Went shopping but everything I bought (mostly sparkly makeup) I already have similar stuff to, but I'm taking it as buying things that bring me joy.
Cried when I went into my bedroom earlier, just thinking the little dog would have lifted his head as I turned on the light. It's gonna take time to break these habits, that muscle memory.
Well I fucking nailed that Butter Chicken. Both kids had seconds. That never happens lately. Put it in the oven for 15 minutes and managed to crisp up the chicken perfectly.
I love when that happens. I made slumgullian recently and it was requested on regular rotation.
w00t w00t!
Maribyrnong: Anglecised version of "Mirring-gnay-bir-nong", which translates as 'I can hear a ringtail possum'.
That made me laugh so fucking hard ๐๐๐ like it's just an apt name for the area holy shit ๐๐
Source: apparently my own council website lol https://conversations.merri-bek.vic.gov.au/renaming/names-melbourne#:~:text=There%20are%2031%20councils%20in,Yarra%20River%20Melbourne%20%2D%20History
My illustrated edition of the Hobbit did turn up and my god, I can't believe I got so much book for $16. It's got gold on the cloth bound hardcover, it's nice and thick with glossy paper stock, and it's full of drawings.
Independent book stores could sell this for $36, saying it's marked down from $70 and they'd move so many units.
Book Photos
need some of that DT perspective.
vent
So for Christmas this year we are traveling to the inlaws, this involves a short flight to a state we cant drive to (I'll give you 2 guesses). Not STOKED about traveling cause its MUCH easier for them to come to us, but whatever.
They often to a greater family thing on Christmas day. I've been asking for months what the plan is. Finally found out that Christmas day plans are 2 hours drive from their place, strike 2.
And that there isnt room for us to stay the night so we would have to drive back (for a total of 4 hours in the car) or spend over 1k on accommodation overnight, strike 3.
Given we only fly in Christmas eve (and i depart day after boxing day) Im a bit.... not enthused about the whole thing.
Mrs B is acting like im the asshole for not wanting to travel or spend even more than we had originally planned to do, I claim the goalposts have been moved and its too much to expect of us with a toddler. So, thoughts?
I'm sorry but if the in-laws have no place for their child, child's spouse and their grandchild...fuck'em.
That's piss poor parenting.
I would give up my own bedroom and sleep on couches for such guests!!! Or blow up mattresses!!
What the absolute fuck? I'm also really sorry that you happened to catch covid this Christmas and didn't wanna risk harming your in laws.
Combined with the cost of everything and also a family to tow around with you without accomodation, I think it's unreasonable for you to have to spend the extra money, time and stress with it all.
It's not helped by the Mrs opinion on this being the opposite of yours.
Sorry this is a hill I'd die on. You have a toddler, fam only told you plans now, and you have a metric fuckton of driving to do, AND ITS A THOUSAND DOLLARS FOR THE ACCOMADATION!
yeah nah, your missus can go by herself, but I don't think this is doable. 4 hours min of driving with a toddler, plus the weather and the flying. Pfft
PFFT
PFFT INDEED
Sorry, but F the fact that there isnโt a place for you to stay when youโre already travelling interstate with a toddler.
AND that it would cost 1k for accommodation and theyโre only telling you in November. With the cost of things?
TF is wrong with people.
thank you! thats my take on it. But the mrs is like "its no big deal".
Yeah, no, sorry to the Mrs, but honestly sometimes we donโt want to hang out under forced conditions, on the holidays nonetheless. Most of us have probably done it for a number of occasions. Life is just too short at this point to always be accommodating to others when theyโre not even somewhat thinking of us.
It might be worth having a good chat with the Mrs to clear the air and try and get on the same page. While I understand that she might not think itโs a big deal, itโs not fair to invalidate your feelings on it. You might agree to disagree, but for sure, if I was expected to be okay with it this time, I would not be doing it again.
That's a lot to ask. Personally I'd visit the inlaws later when it's cheaper but Mrs. B will still be shitty about it. I'd offer a compromise. Go later for longer without that distance and more convenient for your fam.
Cheers cats ๐บ
I'm about to go into the professional art space so all future commissions will be charged accordingly
I tried proper bubble tea for the first time yesterday. So I took a sip, I paused, my eyes went big, I looked at my daughter and she said "Now chew, chew, chew, you can do it". I've never had to chew a drink before. Those balls were huge.
My partner has been complaining she's been freezing cold all day and she just figured out that we forgot to switch the mode back to heating rather than air con from yesterday. Gotta love and laugh at these Melbourne problems ๐
Booked in for blood donation on Monday. Lifeblood texted me and were basically like "yo, heard you got that A+ blood, which we need. Gimme and we'll give you snacks" which works on me.
Woo I didnโt need to pull a full Karen to get insurance address fuckery fixed
I've locked in the 9pm slot next Thursday for the open mic. Will drop a reminder closer to the date if anyone wants to join :)
I love my partner - he's listening to Chappell Roan in the shower ๐ hands down my favourite person!
Alright. Pizza and Ps5 let's fucking gooooooo!
(as soon as I get out of bed after my nanna nap)
Unwinding to some Quincy Jones tracks (so much MJ!) as is the theme across so many PBS programs this week...
I'm NOT going to think about packing or selling items tonight, I'm just tapped out.
Got a friend coming over tomorrow to help work out this couch bizzo and provide some distraction from all the packing and culling.
Wonder what movie or tv series I could blank my brain out with this evening.
E: I'm thinking of Poker Face or maybe Happy Valley, never watched that most famous of UK cozy country cop shows
Today Iโve had 4 coffees, 1 slice of cake, a few mouthfuls of Twisties, some challah, 3 chocolate chip cookies and a can of tuna.
Now I need to decide what to eat for dinner.
I woke up this morning realising I only set my earlier alarm for the usual days I'd be in the office. I got ready as quickly as possible and jumped on the bike to the station because I wouldn't make the bus. I got there the same time as the bus and still made it to the office by 8
Anxiety has been bad today. Iโm not even thinking about you know what. Itโs just there with the rest of my life and everything is making it worse.
I forced myself to quickly go out for newspaper to line plant pots but they didnโt have any. Some dodgy characters around but luckily nothing came of it.
Iโve planted two of the largest zucchini seedlings out but ran out of potting mix and energy because those pots were pretty big. I donโt eat much or exercise enough for physical work like lifting and shoveling so now feeling kind of shakyโฆ but I kind of had to move and do something.
Also theyโre growing fast and I donโt think I can keep all of them.
I wish you could get smaller size seed packs or a bundle with like a few seeds of each type. Maybe a seed library could sort me out but I think thatโs enough โoutsideโ for now.
Hm. Someone Iโve never talked to with a bunch of mod removed comments (and a couple of identical ones) messaged me โhelloโ. Not to be rude but that seems mildly sus so thatโs a block.
I donโt really like DMs at the best of times and usually keep them shut.
Everyone learns differently, at varying paces; don't get frustrated Spud! ๐ญ
Today's my first proper 'in a funk all day due to a shit work interaction with a client' since I started here maybe ten weeks ago. It sucks that it lingers
Here's my "Marry Me" French inspired British/Mexican fusion breakfast pasta:
